New here with so many ?'s

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New here with so many ?'s
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Wed, 04-09-2003 - 3:33pm
First off, my name is Christy. My DH & I have a beautiful 10 month old DD, CJ. It took us nearly 2 yrs TTC with her. We found out at the end of Feb that we were expecting again w/o even really trying. We were in shock, but then ecstatic! Who knew this baby-making thing could be as easy for us as everyone else made it look. Everything was great (though I lacked all the symptoms I had w/DD) until this past weekend, that is.

I started spotting on Sat, then bleeding on Sun. Mon, we went in for a u/s...there was no baby...just the 7 wk sac (and we should have been 10 wks). They offered either a natural m/c or a D&E. I had a c/s w/DD, so we couldn't take this "miracle pill" that is apparently available. I would prefer to avoid the surgery, but what is the likelyhood that it can be passed w/o the surgery. We are going for a follow up u/s tomorrow afternoon to see if the sac is still there. My bleeding is heavy & I'm cramping slightly yesterday & today...there are strings and clots (sorry so graphic!) but I have yet to find anything like he said I should be looking for.

So, I guess my questions are: How long will this bleeding last? How long after this bleeding stops will it take to get AF again? Do they count our m/c date as this weekend or at 7 wks? Any advice on TTC after this ordeal? Should we wait the statistical 3 months or is it possible to get pg after our 1st af? Should we go back in for the quantative hcg next week to see that I'm at 0 before we start TTC again or is that what AF will be signifying? What are my chances of this happening again?

Sorry I packed so much into this...my mind is swirling and I feel like I have no control over my own body anymore. Why couldn't this be easy?

You ladies are wonderful. I've already gotten so much info from this board already!

Hugs to you all,

Christy, CJ (6/5/02) & ~i~ "Pumpkin" 4/03

~Christy - SAHM to Clara (6/02), Jenna (9/04), Jack (11/06) and Baby Collin (EDD 12/28)

 

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Thu, 04-10-2003 - 8:03pm
Hi Christy, I'm so sorry for your lost. I don't have an answer to all of your questions but I found a website which I think can help you (well, it helped me). I have posted the adresse a week ago but here it is for you : www.pregnancyloss.info/ . This is not my website, but I think that it is the most well structured site I found about m/c.

Good Luck to you, and again, I'm sorry for your lost.

Mélanie (HUGS) xx
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Registered: 03-21-2003
Fri, 04-11-2003 - 10:04pm
Welcome to the board Christy! So sorry for your loss. It took me two weeks to m/c naturally. The bleeding lasted like a normal af just heavier. I did take the pills. I got af like 2 months later. I am not sure about the chances of happening again. Some ladies get preg right after and have a normal preg. some do not. I know a few women that have got preg before af right after m/c and they are doing fine. So really when you should ttc again is a decision up to you and your dr. A lot of the women do wait the three months, some dont. Good luck on your TTC journey. I hope you found a new home with us. ((hugs)) Crystal

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Registered: 04-11-2003
Mon, 04-14-2003 - 10:07am
Hi Christy,

First let me say how sorry I am for your loss. I just had my second miscarriage last month. I found out at 8-10 weeks but growth had stopped around 6 weeks. With both I chose not to have a D&C. The first time it took two weeks for everything to pass and the second time it only took 4 days. The first time the pain was pretty bad for 2-3 hours (similar to beginning stages of labor). The second time I did not have that but the bleeding was heavier. In total I bled for 2-3 weeks the first time and 2 weeks the second time. I do have to say that for both I could tell when I passed the sac. The clots are usually all different shapes and sizes but the sac actually looked like a sac. After the u/s confirmed everything was gone they did blood test for my HCG levels until the were less than five. For me it took about a week for this to happen. After the time I knew I passed everything it took about 3 weeks to get my AF. The first time we waited 2 months ttc but did not get pregnant for 6 months. This time I am having some testing done but hope to start ttc in 2 months.

I have read a lot on whether or not to choose natural or D&C and feel it is a choice only you can make. There are pros and cons to each but I believe deep in your heart you will know what you want to do. The same goes for ttc. Some doctors say 1 month some say 3 months. For me the after the first mc I wanted to get pregnant right away. Now I want to make sure all the testing is done and I have started a diet and exercise program to try to be as healthy as I can for my next pregnancy. Keep visiting this board, there is a lot of information. Good Luck.

Jessica

ds 4-29-00

mc 7-5-02

mc 3-18-03

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Mon, 04-14-2003 - 3:58pm
Christy,

I am so sorry for your loss sweetie.

I had bleeding for 2 weeks after m/c, but I had a D&C.

My AF came 35 days (5 weeks) after D&C, average is 4-6 weeks.

I had the D&C at 13.5 weeks, but started bleeding 4 days prior, I use the date of the D&C b/c that is the date my angel left my body and i still felt pg until then.

My dr said to wait 1 cycle to TTC.

I hope i was helpful, best of luck TTC.

Baby dust to you,

Cara