New here/2months since M/C

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Mon, 03-31-2003 - 9:56pm
Hi my name is Dawn. I have 10 year old twin girls and recently in Feb. M/C a baby at 9 wk 5d. I was crushed. Such an empty sadness, I have never felt before. I still have good and bad days. I don't cry everyday now but, I think of that baby everyday, through out the day. We are now again trying. If I don't get preg. right away I will be crushed. If I do get preg. right away I will be a basketcase. This M/C has really made me insecure. Has anyone else felt the same?
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Tue, 04-01-2003 - 12:44am
Dawn,

I know exactly what you mean. I'm still on my first cycle post m/c and I'm dying to be pg again, but terrified of how I will feel once I am! It is so frustrating. I am just so anxious to see how long this cycle is and if I go back to normal cycles. Or even better, just get pg and not even have to worry! you're not alone!

Katy
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Tue, 04-01-2003 - 7:24am
Hi Dawn and welcome to TTCAM. I think it's safe to say that all of us here know EXACTLY what you are going through. The sadness and the anxiety. All I can say is that patience is a good skill to cultivate. Try not to set your sights on getting pg again right away. It'll make you crazy and end up detracting from the joy of things once you do get pg. Focus on the good things in your life. That's what helps me.

I look forward to getting to know you. I hope your stay here is short and sweet.

Blessings

~Keely

Keely 

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Tue, 04-01-2003 - 5:27pm
Thanks ladies for your kind words. I guess I am feeling "under the gun". I just turned 34 and I am feeling pressure (from myself) to get the show on the road. The clock is ticking. My OB says there really in not much to worry about until I reach 40. But, Everything I read says after 35 it gets harder to get pregnant. At 23 it took 4 months to get preg. with my twin girls. This last preg. it took 5 months. I guess this is a good sign. (Anything less than a year on your own)

Do any of you worry about how you will feel when the due date of the baby you lost comes around? I hope I am preg. before that time---maybe it will be easier to bear up? The hope of a new baby might be a nice distraction? I hope so. It should be. But, what I have learned just recently this emotional rollercoaster is unpredictable.

Sincerely,

Dawn

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Tue, 04-01-2003 - 5:49pm
Hi Katy,

I hope you do get preg. right away. And that all goes well. Did it seem like forever to start your first cycle again??? I have never felt like anything was in such slow motion before. It was like, come on, let the "floodgates of hell" open. I refer to my cycle as such because I suffer from hormonal migraines related to my cycle. When I was preg. I didn't get them---it was great. I was feeling good, and I was happy to be preg. That is another reason it would be great to get preg. right away. Best Wishes to you.

Sincerely,

Dawn

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Tue, 04-01-2003 - 6:37pm
Hi Dawn,

I'm 34 as well and feel pressure to get pregnant again right away. I am on c4 cd9 and finally we get to ttc this month! My m/c was in Nov. and my due date is May 14th. I'm dreading it. I have no idea how I will feel. It would be nice to be pregnant by then.

Good luck and big hugs!

Shellie

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Tue, 04-01-2003 - 8:24pm
Hi Dawn and others -

My name is Heather and I just went through my first miscarriage a couple weeks ago. I read all the replies to your postings, and I FEEL THE EXACT SAME WAY! I am scared to death about going through another m/c, but I'm also ready to be on the way to having a baby. This was my first pregnancy, and it is amazing how something so exciting could end up as something so sad. I too have good days and bad days, and I feel as if I will never be the same again. It might get easier, but it still affects me as a person. I do trust in God to take care of me (and all of us), but it still doesn't mean that I won't go through another m/c. And I too wonder what it will be like when my due date in October rolls around. I also hope that I am pregnant again so that it will help ease the pain of that day. I wish you all the best. Please keep us posted on how you are doing.

Sincerely,

Heather

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Tue, 04-01-2003 - 10:48pm
Well Ladies it seems to me that chatting about our experiences is a good thing. I know I don't feel so alone in my feelings. I wish there were no such thing as a miscarrige, maybe someday there won't be. But, for now to seek out others who know EXACTLY how you feel and can relate is a comfort. Hopefully all of us will soon be pregnant and meeting on another board.

Sincerely,

Dawn