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Sun, 08-15-2010 - 5:59pm

It took us 2 years to conceive my first baby. DH had his vasectomy reversed. It took a year to get a consistently good sperm return. After a year they began to test me. Turns out I ovulate late every cycle. You can't ovulate on day 17, there's just not enough time for it to implant even if there is fertilization. The second IUI was successful. We saw the little jelly bean at 6.5 weeks with a strong heartbeat and good HCG levels. We were overjoyed and overwhelmed to see "her".


On Monday morning of last week we went in for our 12 week NT scan. As soon as the tech put the u/s device on my belly I

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Registered: 07-28-2009
In reply to: chouli77
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 6:18pm

Hi, Chouli-


I am soooo sorry about your recent loss. I never lost any of mine as late as you did but I *know* about infertility. I also know about fertility meds, IUI's, finally getting pg after years and then loss. It's a special kind of hell.


But, I want to make sure you understand something. You can ovulate on day 25 and still have a sucessful pregnancy! Successful implantation has much more to do with luteal phase length (number of days after ovulation) than it does what cycle day ovulation actually occurs. A normal LP is 12-14 days. So ovulating on CD 17 is just fine as long as your lining doesn't shed for 12-14 days after that. There is a lot of info on it and I would be happy to send some your way if you'd like to read more about it.


Anyway, I hope you're not here long at all but if you have to be, you couldn't be among better women to lift you up. :)

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Sun, 08-15-2010 - 6:23pm

I am so sorry you had to go through so much! Reading your post made me sad all over again. I wish that none of us ladies had to ever go through anything like this. I had many of the same feelings as you did. Especially the "I am my own baby's coffin". I chose to have a natural miscarriage and it took almost 10 weeks for everything to pass. Every day I kept thinking, "If i can hold on to this baby a little longer, maybe she will be okay..." But it was not the case, and we all know that.

I too felt like my MC's made me and DH closer. He is pretty open and I think the mourning brought us closer together.

I hope and pray that you can find comfort in the boards here and you can learn to lean on us for support when needed. Hopefully you can get back on to TTC and the IUI's work again! Its great to see that after all your and DH have been through, you arent ready to give up yet. :)

Keep us posted on your recovery and how you are doing emotionally. This board is full of amazing women who have been in similar situations. I havent been here long, but I have learned to love all of them and use them all for advice, comfort, and support.

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In reply to: chouli77
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 6:32pm

I read your post and wanted to send you big cyber hugs (((HUGS))). I'm so sorry for your loss. I think this board is fabulous and am glad you found it. I, too, have felt like throwing a tantrum here and there. Life is just not fair at times. I guess we just take it one day at a time and keep going. ((HUGS)) again.

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Me(30), DH(30)...Our TTC journey:

~1993: Dx of bicornuate uterus (BU) on u/s

September 2003: begin wedded bliss! (on BCP)

Fall 2007: HSG results consistent with BU

Fall 2008: here we go, bye-bye BCP

November 2008: DH in hospital, ?CP/horrid AF

Winter 2008: back on BCP

Spring/Summer 2009: last chemo, radiation for DH

January 2010: bye-bye BCP, waiting

March 2010: green light to TTC

April 2010: BFP (4/1), beta ~900 (4/2)

May 2010: m/c (5/30) @12w5d

June 2010: regrouping, septum (SU) vs. BU

July 2010: looks like surgery this fall


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Sun, 08-15-2010 - 7:15pm

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Sun, 08-15-2010 - 7:16pm
Hi, I am so sorry you are going thru this. Wanted to welcome you to this board. I know it is painful but all the ladies here are very supportive, take care, Jen
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In reply to: chouli77
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 7:20pm

Oh my goodness Chouli,


I'm so sorry for the ordeal you went through. I had a D & C with 3 out of 4 of my losses and I NEVER went through anything like that before my surgery. I was usually so drugged up from the meds that went into my IV before I ever went into the OR....I didn't remember anything. You poor thing! {{{HUGS}}} You didn't deserve to be "stabbed" with a needle either. Good Lord.


I know what you mean about my body being my baby's coffin---before my very 1st loss about 19 yrs ago, I held onto my deceased

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In reply to: chouli77
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 8:30pm

Chouli - So sorry to hear of your loss. I can completely relate to your fear of having that sonogram image etched into your mind forever. The image burned into my skull is of a different sort--of my fetuses' lungs, heart, skin, abdomen, and neck surrounded with and pumped full of black pockets of fluid. The other image is the one I saw when I first learned that it wasn't compatible with life, and I can't even speak of that one right now. I can tell you that the images and memories will always be with you, but the pain will eventually start to lessen over time.

I'm glad to hear that your DH has been so wonderfully supportive and helpful, and that the two of you have found yourselves drawn even closer together through this heartbreaking experience.

You and your hubby will be in my thoughts. I hope the infection starts clearing up really soon, and wish you all of the best as you recover and continue on with your TTC journey.

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Sun, 08-15-2010 - 8:48pm
I was so sad reading your post and I am so sorry for your loss. It is never easy to experience loss and you have to give yourself time to grieve. At times, I want to throw a fit and other times I try to be strong for dh. My thoughts are with you during this hard time. :(

Christy
TTC 1st child since 2006
June 16, 2010: IUI w/ Femara BFP (Ectopic - Methotrexate shot) RE sidelined me until November cycle for next IUI :(

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In reply to: chouli77
Mon, 08-16-2010 - 12:48am

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. It's not an experience I'd wish on even my worst enemy.

DH and I also grew much closer after our m/c. As bad as it sounds it was sort of like a bonding experience for us also. We learned that we need each other to lean on through good and bad times and we can make it work no matter what.

I really hope your infection goes away quickly and you start feeling better.

I know no one wants to have to be on this board but you've def found a very supportive place to be.






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In reply to: chouli77
Mon, 08-16-2010 - 6:05am
Sorry, I should have said that I can't ovulate on day 17. I do know lots of women ovulate later than that and I've done all the research too. But my LP was always 10 days so that was not enough time for me. After the femara and ovidrel, I have to also be on progesterone support which was part of my LP problem.
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