Please respond asap, kind of freakin out

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Please respond asap, kind of freakin out
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Sun, 04-06-2003 - 10:58pm
ok, this is kind of very personal so sorry for those of you who dont know me well on here yet. I miscarried 3 weeks and 3 days ago, i was 6 weeks preg and didnt have to have a d&c or anything. It was our first. Well me and my husband messed up today! I thought that this once he could not wear a condom and just pull out. well my husband kind of was caught in the moment and didnt pull out!!!!!! My worry is that I havent even had time to start my period again yet!!! And the doctor said to wait for 2 cycles before getting preg again. Yes i have decided to try after one cycle but this is toooooooo soon im afraid! if i am pregnant because of today then is my baby doomed??? I dont think i can go through this again especially because i was the one who said "just pull out this one time." {PLEASE TELL ME YOUR HONEST OPINION.) I couldbe freaking out for nothing because maybe it didnt get me preg, but if so i cant go through this again just because i was stupid!!!!!!! Also has anyone in here gotten preg that soon again and had a healthy baby??

Thanks again guys, i love you all!--Amy
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Sun, 04-06-2003 - 11:14pm
I'm so sorry for your loss but I hope I can help. Your baby-to-be is not doomed due to this one indiscretion. Some people try and even get pg before AF and go on to have normal healthy pgs. It is easier to date a pg if you have an AF to go by. I tried to get pg before AF but didn't even ovulate so it wasn't an option. Docs may tell you to wait for certain cycles to heal from the m/c emotionally. Try not to obsess over it too much. I'm sorry you are so worried but I hope you can try to relax. GLTY! Jacqui
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Sun, 04-06-2003 - 11:30pm
Personally, I wouldn't worry too much if I were you. I went through the same thing as you. Turned out I wasn't pregnant. It is not that easy to fall pregnant, the timing has to be perfect. My Dr said it was ok to start to TTC as soon as we felt ready, and that we didn't have to wait for my first cycle. Different Dr's will give you different advice. The only thing they have in common is they are doing things in your best interest.

Chin up, I am sure it will be fine. If you were lucky enough to fall pregnant, don't stress as stress can't be good for a baby. Just relax and let nature take its course. Too late now no matter the out come. So just give your DH a big hug and relax.

Good Luck

Elaine

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Mon, 04-07-2003 - 2:29am
I am in a similar boat. I m/c on March 10. Well the 28th was our first BD since then, just worked out that way between the kids and dh's work schedule.. I knew I had major EWCM that day, and intended to be safe during bd, but then between being caught in the moment (ecspecially after the stress of the m/c and all it felt right) and the fact that TTA just didn't feel right when what we want is a baby, we ended up BDing w/out any protection. I have been charting my temps, just to be in the know as to what's going on w/my cycle, and according to Fertility Friend, I O'd the day after our roll in the hay! Now i am scared and at the same time hopeful. I am 7 DPO. I am alredy having IPS of course. And if AF shows next weekend, I'll be disapointed but at the same time relieved. I have heard of more success stories though, than bad stories about conceiving before first AF. So just try not to feel guilty and have faith that if you do get pg this cycle, it's b/c you were meant to. HOw long till you'll knwo for sure? I hate waiting. Keep us posted.

Katy