Should I Be Worried About Infection? Missed M/C Still Nothing Happening...

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Should I Be Worried About Infection? Missed M/C Still Nothing Happening...
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Mon, 10-11-2010 - 3:30pm

Ok I know I should call my dr's office. I try to avoid that place as much as possible though as I've not had great experiences with them before. But I am wondering if I should call them because its been 2 weeks since finding out about missed m/c and 3 wks since baby stop developing and nothing's happening. I was reading about possible infection and now I'm getting worried. Do you think I'll be ok until my appt in two weeks? Or should I cave in and call my dr? I've read that infection may be possible if you wait too long for your body to do it naturally. Some say 2 weeks some say a month. I'm confused. Anyone else with experience? Anyone take longer than 2-3 wks for m/c to happen?

 


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Registered: 10-05-2006

I am sorry you are going through this. I had an ectopic so I had to take a drug to dissolve things. I know others can give you more advise. It wouldn't hurt to call the doctor to see if you can wait for your appt to come in. I know each person reacts differently to a MC. I hope things start happening for you so can you heal physically and emotionally.

Hugs...

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Registered: 07-09-2010

I dont have time to read through everyone elses post, so forgive me if i repeat what any of them have said. It normally takes about 4-6 weeks to start bleeding and to MC. BUT it does sometimes take longer even though there is nothing wrong. I was monitored 2x a week for 9 weeks before anything happened. Nothing was wrong, it was just my body taking longer... BUT just because it can take longer and nothing be wrong, doesnt mean that you shouldnt go see your doc. I know thats not what you want to hear, but its for the best for you and your body that you make sure everything is okay.

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Registered: 11-17-2008

Hey there,

Sorry you're going through this awful waiting time. I agree with pp, I think you could call your doctor and explain that you'd just like a check up.

If you don't feel like going to the doctor, I don't think there's any harm in waiting it out but if you have any symptoms of possible infection (nausea, vomitting, suspicious odor, headaches, or generally feeling "off") just go right ahead to be seen.

It took a long time for my m/c to start naturally and I wondered the same thing.

Hope you're managing ok. P and PTs

B

B, loving wife to L. Proud Mum to William Luke (22 months) and expecting Samuel James in November. >

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Registered: 03-25-2010

Hi, Karen.

I was thinking of you today. You don't need to apologize for the questions. We're here for each other; you can lean on other's experiences.

I also began to wonder after a few weeks if the m/c was going to happen on its own. It took about a month but it did happen and there was no infection. I remember my OB saying, "It could happen today. It could happen three weeks from now. There's no way of telling when exactly" and she gave me a month for it to happen on its own before persuing other avenues. I guess my body was just as stubborn as my spirit.

It never hurts to get your doctor's opinion, especially if you are having signs of infection like pp said. ((HUGS))

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Registered: 11-17-2008
Yes, you could do that... maybe by going in and having a look you might feel like you're being proactive/doing something instead of waiting and having to be passive. I did that. The nurse was able to tell me the lining was beginning to thin out.

Also if your heart is tender it might upset you to have another look. The nurse gave us way TMI about what was happening to our baby on our "checking to see what's going on" ultrasound.

Don't worry about questions, you're most welcome to ask. <3
B, loving wife to L. Proud Mum to William Luke (22 months) and expecting Samuel James in November. >

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Registered: 12-11-2006

I discovered at 11 weeks that baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks. I had to come back a week later for a second scan before they would do anything, just in case there was a mistake with the dates - but I knew there wasn't. Then I was given 3 options - wait for m/c to happen naturally, take medication or have a d&c. I preferred natural but took the medication home with me just in case. I've always preferred the natural route to medical intervention whenever possible, if it's an option. The m/c then happened the following day without me taking anything BUT it was incomplete, which led to another 8 weeks of hospital appointments and scans (and antibiotics in case of infection) before finally getting a d&c - all very head and heart-wrecking because it prolonged the whole process. (Esp remember while I was being wheeled into theater, hearing one of the nurses say, "but her levels are only 58!" As in, why is she here? !!?!)

Knowing what I do now from experience, I think I would have opted for a d&c immediately. It wasn't that bad - day procedure, you're 'out' when it's happening & blissfully unaware, and it's fast. Right away I felt PHYSICALLY and emotionally different - I knew the pregnancy was over, remaining pregnancy symptoms quickly dropped away and I began to recover emotionally from 3 months of torment.

I thought after the m/c happened that it was over and it wouldn't affect me that much - boy was I wrong. I think the prolonged waiting & repeated appointments until the d&c didn't help much - but I know things are different for everyone.

My advice would definitely be - go and see the doc. You'll at least know what's going on and what choices you have.

Feeling for you!

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Registered: 03-25-2010

Karen,

I've been thinking of you. Sending hugs and comforting thoughts your way.

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Hi Lydia,

Thanks for the hugs and warm thoughts. :smileyhappy: Still hanging in there, waiting, hate answering phone calls from family wondering if "it's happened yet?". Had a false alarm last night. Lots of lower back cramps, some stomach cramps, and very light spotting but nothing today. It's not helping with the denial I am feeling (nothing's happening-maybe everything's alright type of thinking). But I appreciate all of the words of support you and others have given to me-it has definitely helped. I hope all is well with you and your family and thanks for answering all of my questions. :smileyhappy:

Karen

 


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Registered: 03-25-2010

Karen,

OMG, I had those family phone calls too. The worst ones were from my mother. I would tell her, "I'll tell you when" but she kept asking. Thing was, you'd think she would have been a bit more understanding since she had 4 m/c herself. Everyone else backed off when I said I'd let them know. It's tough, they care about you, but it just makes you soooo mad and sad!! Ok, well, that's how I felt.

Oh my, I just realized that my recent messages may have seemed like I was checking in on you like your family has been. I hope you don't feel that way but if you did please know that I'm sorry. I want to offer support and comfort.

I'm so glad the board has helped you. I feel like it has really helped me.

Oh no, a false alarm. I'm so sorry to hear that. Perhaps that means the waiting is almost over. I felt that it was so strange to want the waiting to be over, to have an answer...it was good and bad. In a way, when it was happening, I felt relief in giving up the denial.

Glad to hear you are still hanging in there. Sometimes that's all we can do. Please don't forget that you are strong and brave.

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