So I Guess It's Starting... Relieved and Sad

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So I Guess It's Starting... Relieved and Sad
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Thu, 10-21-2010 - 6:08pm

So this morning as I went to sit up in bed my sides had an intense sharp pain which lasted for about a minute. Then off and on today I have been having cramping and spotting. Now my stomach is starting to REALLY cramp up and I'm so glad my dh is coming home from work soon and that there was no school for the kids today or tomorrow. However I think I will have to send my dh to my daughter's school conference that I was looking forward to (she's been struggling but has shown lots of improvement-or at least I think). I was planning on taking her out for a treat afterwards but now that just isn't going to happen.


About a week ago I had a little bit of spotting (from pushing #2-tmi sorry) and I thought that was it but then nothing. So I didn't really take it serious when I saw some spotting this morning. But now that the spotting has been going on all day and the cramps are becoming more intense I finally think it is happening.

I guess I am relieved to have it starting and knowing that it will all be over soon enough. But at the same time I am very sad and heartbroken but trying to keep myself together in front of the kids and my daycare (school aged) children (no school so they are here all day today and tomorrow).

Just wanted to give an update and to say thank you so much to the supportive ladies of this message board. You've really helped me get through these past few weeks and while I may not post much I do read a lot of the threads and have all of your ladies in my thoughts and prayers.

Karen

 


Karen



 


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Registered: 12-08-2009

Hi Karen -

TMI mentioned below....

When I first started to m/c, I had two days of cramping (front and back) and brown blood that had jelly like "clots" in it - so not sure if that was tissue or not. When I started to bleed, it was just so red in the toilet that I couldn't see anything to really look for tissue. DH told me not to look (which was very wise of him) and I didn't - it was too disturbing for me, so I would wipe, toss and flush as quickly as I could and would never look at the pad when I would change it. I found out on a Friday that I had lost my baby almost two weeks prior before my body started letting go at 12 weeks. On that Saturday I was having mild cramps which turned pretty severe by the end of the night (later figured out they were contractions as they were only every 10 minutes which lessened to 3-5 minutes) I had gone to bed and woke myself up because I was moaning in my sleep from the pain and went to the bathroom where I passed the sac. As soon as I got up, the cramping stopped and I realized what had happened. The pain wasn't anything that you can't tolerate and I wasn't able to take any ibuprofen as I was scheduled for a D&C on Monday so maybe taking some of that will help some. I got by with a heating pad and the BenGay heat thingys that you use for sore muscles that heat up and just put it right on my abdomen. Definitely no to a bath - like Kelly said - too risky with infection.

Thinking of you and sending you prayers that you get through this and can begin to heal. Hugs.

Ann

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Registered: 11-17-2008
Hey Karen,

I would back up the other girls and say no to a bath also.

Also something Ann said reminded me - I had a really intense pain (like a weak contraction, or pulling) got up out of bed, went to the shower and passed the sac. After that, there was no more pain.

Before passing the sac I had lots of bright red loss, and lots of clots. The cramping and pain stopped right away after passing the sac and placenta. I think the emotional relief was linked with the physical act of the miscarriage and I began to feel immediately better. I hope this happens for you. It was 4 weeks from the beginning of my natural miscarriage until the end, so I know how you're feeling. Such a strange combination of emotions. But it's almost over, and you should be very proud of yourself for persisting and waiting with such strength.

B
B, loving wife to L. Proud Mum to William Luke (22 months) and expecting Samuel James in November. >

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TMI Warning

I have had quite a bit of pain in vaginal area. I passed a long thin piece of tissue...not sure what part it was. How do you know which is the sac?

 


Karen



 


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Karen I was wondering whether to write this part but I know you like to have as much information as possible, so maybe TMI but here goes:

In my m/cs, the actual fetal tissue was different to the clots. It had different texture and colour. There was greyish material there. The sac was clearly defined, like a small clear bubble, with tissue attached to the outside and an embryo inside. HTH and doesn't upset you. Hugs.
B, loving wife to L. Proud Mum to William Luke (22 months) and expecting Samuel James in November. >

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I didn't see my sac because I passed it in the toilet and there was still so much blood that I wouldn't have been able to see even if I wanted to... Like B said - you'll know because the pain will seem almost instantly gone... Praying for peace and healing for you soon.

Hugs.

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Is the sac the last to pass? I think you said once all tissue is passed the pain ends? Still having pain down there and contraction type cramps. I've had two pieces of tissue pass but don't think I saw a sac yet?

 


Karen



 


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Registered: 08-16-2007

I am so sorry that you are still waiting to pass everything. You may or may not see a sac, depending on its size, how many clots, and how much you are bleeding (I didnt, with any of mine, but they were all at 8 weeks or less),. The relief might not be immediate, but it will start to taper off once youve passed most of the tissue. Be prepared for more bleeding and cramping in the next few days though. It will probably feel like a very heavy period.

Im so sorry about your loss, and I do hope the physical part is over for you soon. I hope you have plenty of loving, supportive people around you right now to help you through this very difficult time.

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Hey Karen,
For me the sac was the biggest thing to pass, then some more clots, then a period, like Nicole said. From what I've read, in natural mcs, sometimes the tissue breaks down before it is passed so it might not be recognizable but I think the pains you're experiencing are an indication that things are happening. How are you feeling emotionally? B
B, loving wife to L. Proud Mum to William Luke (22 months) and expecting Samuel James in November. >

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I'm not really sure how I'm feeling. I guess numb would best describe it. I am trying to keep busy to not think about it. We are getting the house ready for Halloween and so that and cooking up a storm has been keeping me pretty busy.

 


Karen



 


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Registered: 11-17-2008
Hi Karen,
I wrote more down in your daily support post but I totally know that numb feeling you described. I think it's nature's way of helping us get through our day (or even get out of bed).

I bet your home's looking lovely! Thinking of you! B
B, loving wife to L. Proud Mum to William Luke (22 months) and expecting Samuel James in November. >