So I have a dilemma and need some advice. I'm Erika.
YAY Erika! Welcome here, officially :)
I am a big fan of the let's-try-it-and-see-what-happens approach. It is much more laid-back and a lot less stressful than the lets-hurry-up-and-get-pregnant-like-YESTERDAY obsessive-compulsive approach!
Hi Torie -
I do remember you.
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Erika, your DH sounds a lot like mine. And I know a lot of dads who love their kids once they are born and actually can see/hold/touch them, instead of it just being an abstract "thing" inside of his wife's tummy. So I think that Rob would be the same way too, once the baby was here. ALso, I have struggled with PPD after childbirth and I know how hard that can be on a marriage and a family, but you have to keep in mind that every pregnancy is different, and you guys are in a more stable place than you were back then, when Bekah was tiny.
I think I would go for it if I were you. Not trying to tell you what to do or anything :)
Erika, if it were me I would TTC anyway. Especially if you think that your DH would embrace the child once it was born. My DH was the same way about my losses and I think a lot of us can say that. If he was sad at all, he was sad because I was sad. He hates to see me that way but he doesn't think about the baby we lost at all. He would have to at LEAST see a heartbeat to even consider it a baby at all. Until then, he really just thinks of it as a chemical mishap.
ERIKA!!! I've missed you so much girl! It's so good to see you considering TTC. I don't have any advice as to whether or not you should try again. I know your DH is pretty ambivalent about the whole pg thing and how addictive TTC can be. I remember how the last m/c devestated you to the point of walking away from iV and such. it was so heartbreaking to watch what you were going through. Now I only lurk around here, mostly to be a cheerleader to my TTCAM sistahs.
Anyways... I'll always be a cheerleader for you and the rest of the girls on the board. I know you'll do whats best for you, your DH, and Bekah.
Lots of love and hugs.
Hi Erika and welcome back to TTCAM!!! (although, of course none of us really want to be here)
Thanks Nicole and Tee.