Trying to conceive with no luck

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Registered: 11-17-2010
Trying to conceive with no luck
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Wed, 11-17-2010 - 9:00pm

Hi.

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Registered: 08-16-2007
Fri, 11-19-2010 - 6:20am

Over 4 years of TTC is a verrrry long time to go with nothing to show for it. Im so sorry! I would try to see a specialist, like an RE, and get some additional testing done to figure out where to go from here. Have you only been trying natural methods, or have you tried other things like Clomid and injectables yet?

Also please check out the folder below called "TTC for 9+ months." You can chat with other "long-timers" and commiserate together about the trials and frustrations of TTC for far too long.

PS Please fporgive me if these suggestions have already been posted, I didnt get thechance to read other replies before I wrote this.

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Registered: 05-27-2010
Thu, 11-18-2010 - 7:49pm
Thanks Kelly!! You know I am going to continue to stay here because I know what I believe. I will also check out the other board as well. When we don't know...we are destroyed due to lack of knowledge. I want to bring comfort the way God comforted me during my losses. For those that don't want it, they don't have to receive. I can only tell what I know and what I been through hoping that it may help someone.
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Registered: 05-12-2008
Thu, 11-18-2010 - 11:51am

I am so sorry for your loss.

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Registered: 09-24-2004
Thu, 11-18-2010 - 10:11am

Welcome Cam and I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Registered: 07-06-2010
Thu, 11-18-2010 - 8:59am

Hey Cam,

I'm so sorry. I

Katie, DH, DD- Emma (11/27/11), #2 due 10/4/13 : )

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Registered: 12-14-2004
Thu, 11-18-2010 - 7:04am

Pam, one of my favorite jokes is about this guy who is in a town that's flooding. He has great faith, and knows that God will save him. His neighbors leave in a car, and say, "hey! We've got room for you!". He answers back, "thanks anyway! But God will save me!". Soon, he's trapped on the second floor of the house, leaning out the window, praying. He's interrupted by some friends on a boat. "Come join us! We saved you a place!". "No thanks! God will save me!". Soon, he's stranded on the roof. The Red Cross sends a helicopter with a rope ladder. "Grab on and climb up!" shouts the rescuer. "it's okay! Go without me!" he answers, knowing that God will save him, and he goes back to praying. Soon he drowns, and goes to heaven. When he meets God, he says, God, what happened? I had great faith, and I knew you would save me!" God answers, "who do you think sent the car, the boat, and the helicopter?"

I have faith also, and find a lot of personal comfort in prayer and scriptures, but I also think that God has given us more information in this day and age than we've ever had before, and we're always learning more. When we want something badly enough to seek and quest for it, it's wonderful to have faith to get us through the rough times, as well as the good, but I also believe that god wants us to more work to attain our goals, besides only prayer.

While faith does come up here now and then, as a subject of its own, this board is more where the specifics of techniques for "heavy-duty trying" are discussed, and support is offered when we're going through losses, or experiencing the let-down of not being pregnant AGAIN, or going crazy waiting until we are. I hope you stay here and share your experiences as well, but i hope you'll also check out the TTC-Christian Sisters board, where you might be able to find some new friends who do derive comfort from sharing scripture verses and prayers on a more literal level.

I don't remember seeing you here before! I'm sorry if i missed your intro! I'm sorry for your losses, and i hope that you are able to hold your own little miracle soon!

Kelly

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Registered: 12-14-2004
Thu, 11-18-2010 - 6:26am
Cam, welcome to the board! I'm sorry for your loss and your struggles with infertility. Although I don't have any advice to help, as you've been at this longer than I have, but my thoughts and prayers are with you, and if anyone has advice for you, it's some of the women here! If not, I KNOW you'll get love and support!

Kelly
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Registered: 10-05-2006
Thu, 11-18-2010 - 12:03am

Hi Cam,

I have been trying since 2006 and finally started seeing an RE this year. We have our first IUI in June and I got pregnant but sadly it was an ectopic. We just had our first IUI after the ectopic (had to wait 3 months per doctor) and I got a BFN today. I am pretty much waiting for af. Are you seeing an RE or a regular doctor? If you are not, I think it is time to see someone who specializes in fertility.

Hugs. I know this is so hard both the loss ane ttc for years. It takes a toll.

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Registered: 04-13-2010
Wed, 11-17-2010 - 9:36pm
I mean no offense either, but "try to relax" is one of the TOP things NOT to say to a woman who is ttc and has experienced infertility.

Quoting scriptures also just ticks most of us off. We know, we just don't need it thrown in our faces all the time. It's really easy for one to praise the word and to praise the works when your dreams have come true... but for those of us still in the storm, we just don't need it.


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Registered: 04-13-2010
Wed, 11-17-2010 - 9:33pm

I'm sorry for your loss and for your experience with infertility. I've been with my husband for almost 13 years. After one year, we miscarried... it took us 7 more years of tests and treatments and heartache to get pregnant again, and I miscarried again, then it took us 3 more years to get pregnant again, and I lost him at 35 weeks. I totally understand your frustration. I'm sorry that I have no quick easy fix - or I'd be fixed. Just know that you are not alone, and there are several of us here that are experiencing the same frustrations as you, feel free to reach out to us.


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