TTC #3 this year... BFN @ 12 DPO :(

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Registered: 04-29-2011
TTC #3 this year... BFN @ 12 DPO :(
Wed, 11-02-2011 - 8:42pm

Hello all!

Im 36 years old and am on attempt #3 this year after 2 grueling miscarraiges this year (March at 6 wks and July at 9 wks). I've given it a few months, and after completeing nursing school this month (and leaving behind all the stress that goes along with it) I've had QUITE a few "exciting" pregnancy symptoms for the past week. Nausea, cramping, sore breasts. My fiance had also had severe nausea for the past 3-4 days.

With my last 2 pregnancies this year, I was getting BFP's at 10 dpo. It's 12 dpo and after all these symptoms, I've gotten my 3rd bfn :-(

The hardest part is waiting.... but can anyone let me know if you got a BFP after 12 dpo? If so, are there any recommendations (from experience) that I can bring to my Dr if I am preggo, to potentially hold a viable pregnancy for longer than 9 weeks?

My DS is 7, and I had a C-Section with him, when she cut me to get him out, she asked me if I'd ever had abdominal surg. before due to excess scar tissue (I havent, but have been told my mom had very dense tissue as well). Im wondering if this interfere's with the implantaion process and is contributing to my 2 miscarraiges. Any and all advise is appreciated!!

Thanks so much, fingers crossed for a BFP within the next few days!

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Registered: 08-07-2007
Thu, 11-03-2011 - 5:29am
So sorry for your losses. The only way to know what is causing your m/c's is if they genetically test the LOs, they can also test you for low progesterone. I would say get checked for clotting issues, but you already have kids. I would also say get a HSG, but you are achieving pregnancy. At 36, the likely culprit is egg quality.
Chouli, 34; DH 45 Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
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Registered: 07-29-2003
Fri, 11-04-2011 - 9:23pm

I can relate.

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Registered: 12-13-2006
Wed, 11-09-2011 - 1:25pm
Im 36. I didn't get bfp until 21dpo. Im 13 weeks now. After several bfns I gave up and drank and did other bad things. Now I wish I had waited longer.
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Registered: 08-10-1999
Thu, 11-10-2011 - 8:06pm
Hi Ruth,

Hi there Ruth,

First, I am so sorry for your losses. (((HUGS)))

Second, at 36 it isn't definitely egg quality, and I wouldn't let that idea get you down just yet.

You need to get checked for several things that could be impacting your ability to hang on to your pregnancies:

1. Progesterone. They need to check your progesterone levels shortly after ovulation to see where it is at. Progesterone helps your uterine lining prepare for implantation AND it also helps to sustain the pregnancy until the placenta takes over at roughly 12 weeks.

2. They need to check you for clotting disorders to ensure that they aren't causing miscarriages. Lupus anti-coagulant disorders, etc. There are quite a few things that can cause clotting issues.

3. They need to check you for infections, specifically any that are resistant to usual antibiotics and that may be symptom-less. For example, some STDs can be symptom-less for years, especially in women, and can easily become issues during pregnancy. Also ask to be tested for mycoplasma and ureaplasma infections.... this is what I had and it is a symptom-less infection that does not respond to usual antibiotics. In that, I mean that most antibiotics work by breaking down cellular walls and the mycoplasma/ureaplasma bacteria don't have cellular walls to break down, so you need very specific antibiotics to work on that particular infection.

4. Some women don't process folic acid "correctly" so you need to be checked for any folic acid issues, usually a MTHFR gene mutation.

There can be other issues as well, but that's all I'm getting off the top of my head right now. Getting pregnant is definitely not an issue for you, so I would start with these if you want to be proactive with your doctor.

I wish you the best of luck and I truly hope you get your sticky bfp soon.




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Registered: 08-10-1999
Thu, 11-10-2011 - 8:13pm
I forgot to add that scar tissue can definitely have an impact... And while Chouli is right in that the only way you can see if there was something genetically wrong with the pregnancy is to have the fetus tested, there could also be other factors that can cause a pregnancy to fail in addition to the genetic issues (specifically the ones that I listed above). Most places won't test a fetus/embryo until after 3 consecutive miscarriages, so most of the time women won't know what caused their pregnancy to fail even if it is a genetic issue.

My advice is to rule everything else out before you even look at egg quality. It could be an issue, but it could also be something easily fixable. :)

Please keep us updated, and if you are getting testing done, please let us know in the Dr's Appts threads so we can keep track of what's going on with you and offer insight and support and also to help you come up with questions you may want to ask.