A very old member coming back to share inspiration....

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A very old member coming back to share inspiration....
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Wed, 04-27-2011 - 10:52pm

Hey There!

My name is Andrea. I lived on these boards from 2001 to 2005.

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Registered: 05-12-2008
I really just don't know how to say some of the things that I want to say. I was a member of TTCAM a few years ago and when I got pg with ds (after 2 years of ttc and 3 m/c) I continued to get support from all of the ladies. People posted there updates all the time, and we all supported them. Why? Because they have been exactly where we are. No, not every story is the same but does that make them any less deserving of support? Does having 2 living children make me less deserving to be here? There are some people that do NEED to hear that it can (not necessarily will) happen. I've noticed a lot less people posting in the BFP section because they are scared. I am here to support people (as well as recieve support) and I will continue to support everyone through not just their BFPs but their whole pg!
Congrats again, Andrea, on your family!

Dustie
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Registered: 11-13-2008

Hello ladies,

We are aware that sometimes these types of posts can hit us the wrong way, or at the wrong time, but they are meant in good spirits.

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Registered: 01-27-2008
I like to hear that this can happen. Maybe I'm in the minority? Regardless, it made me smile to read it. I'm not a Christian or that familiar with Christianity, but the sentiment seems nice.

S

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Registered: 03-19-2007
I am a kinda current member of TTCAM and was an active member over the past 15 months. I agree with forestmom. I don't think it matters if you are a lurker or the most active member- everyone thoughts carry the same weight. Does my opinion not count anymore because I am more of a lurker, because after 2 yr ttc and 3 m/c, I am finally pg?? I don't think so.

When I first came to this board, the BFP and beta section was called something different. It was a place that newly pregnant woman could come and talk about their first few u/s's as well as any problems/concerns they were having. It was changed months ago, due to the sensitivity of the issues.

I agree that there have been many more mean-spirited posts than there were when I joined. I also agree woman are more criticized instead of supported. Now, I am not saying that there is no support, there is. that is why I still lurk and post now and then. We were all able to be ourselves. We knew we were different- christian, morman, wiccan, atheist- but we embraced it. Now, it seems if something is brought up that is not agreed with, the poster is attacked instead of just being left alone.

If you do not agree with a post or feel you cannot be supportive of that poster then don't reply! It's that simple. How would you feel if you posted and were attacked, for just sharing your opinion/ experience.

Aimee
member of TTCAM since 02/2010
3 m/c
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Totally agree, Aimee!
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Registered: 03-19-2007
Andrea thank you for your post. Though I do not agree with all of it, I can understand where you are coming from. I am glad you got your miracle.

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Registered: 05-12-2008
I agree, too!
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Registered: 05-11-2010

Hi Aimee - I don't agree with you at all re: the thoughts of non-participating members who've been away from these boards for many years carrying the same weight . . . especially those who are no longer TTC and are obviously so far-removed from the experience of it.

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Registered: 03-19-2007
Julia- The great thing about these boards is you don't have to agree with me. You are entitled to your opinion.

As for people removed from the situation opinion not meaning as much, does that mean Torie's m/c in 1999 didn't mean as much when she was on the boards in 2005 because her next one was in 2006 and others m/c were more recent? No. Not at all. Do my m/cs not count because I have 2 healthy boys. No. it's absurd to think that. Whether someone had a m/c yesterday or 50 years ago, it still hurts and we all remember what it feels like.

I have not been away from this board for one second. I am here every single day, checking on you ladies. As for the criticizing, yes I totally believe that. I posted quite a bit the first 6 months or so I was here. Then things changed. Woman were attacked for no reason. So I, and most likely others, quit posting. There was always a fear in the back of my head, and probably others, that what I had to say would make someone to post an angry reply instead of support. Who knows, that may have been the time you came on the board.

The title of this post was about inspiration. Now, you know what that means. It has always meant the same thing. If you didn't want to be inspired, then you shouldn't have even read it. I think you just read it and posted because you like causing drama and pain, so others feel the same as you.

People who believe in God, any God, trust in their religion. She was in no way shoving her religion on you, she was simply letting us know what worked for her.

Are you going to attack me too because I also believe God had a hand in all my pregnancies?? My first son took 3 years to conceive. and my second 2 months. With my current one, after 2 years, 5 rounds of Clomid, 3 m/cs, right before I was to start new fertility meds I get pg out of the blue. We DTD 2 times before O. I believe it happened in his time, no matter how much I tried to intervene.

Basically, it comes back to, if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all. Just because you have a voice, doesn't mean it has to be heard on every single topic. If others do feel the way you do, well, they took the high road.

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Registered: 01-15-2008

Sadieceline, If there was a way to applaud, I would.