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Registered: 01-31-2011
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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 1:18pm

Hi my name is Jennifer- we lost our little angel Baby Derek @ 18 weeks and 2 days- I was under the impression that after 2nd trimester we were "safe"....guess I was wrong to assume anything.

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Registered: 08-06-2008
In reply to: jsl345
Sun, 02-06-2011 - 12:03am

Hi Jen

I know your feeling all too well. I lost my 1st baby at 7 weeks and did like the dr said and waited one full cycle. We got pregnant right away with our 2nd baby. We saw the heartbeat, then heard the heartbeat and were into the 2nd trimester and just like you thought we were "safe" Unfortunately we ended up losing our baby at 16weeks. After giving birth to our son on 8/17/10 we decided to hold him, it was truly the hardest day of our lives. It took me awhile to be able to get back to just normal everyday life. I went through many test to try and figure out why this happened to us but we found nothing. We decided to wait a while for us emotionally. We decided to

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Registered: 06-29-2010
In reply to: jsl345
Fri, 02-04-2011 - 3:20pm

welcome, I am so sorry for your loss. I never waited to TTC again, but I was never far along. I hope you get some answers. This is a wonderful place with many supportive women. HUGS

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Registered: 07-07-2006
In reply to: jsl345
Fri, 02-04-2011 - 1:07pm
I'm so sorry for your loss, and I too would have felt like I was in the "safe" zone at that point. As far as TTC my doctor told me conception within 2/3 months of miscarraige ups the risk from the normal 1 in 4 to a whopping 1 in 2. That is the main reason I am waiting. Emotionally I want to try SOOOO bad, but I don't want this to happen again. Of course it is ultimately your choice but I though I'd offer that ought since that is what she told me. I will pray for you and your family!
Jill, mommy to Chloe, almost 5, Oliver, 3 & baby Ella born 12-1-11 !
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Registered: 09-24-2004
In reply to: jsl345
Thu, 02-03-2011 - 9:54pm

Welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Registered: 01-31-2011
In reply to: jsl345
Thu, 02-03-2011 - 10:45am

Thanks so much everyone- I too hope my stay here isn't long.

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Registered: 01-13-2004
In reply to: jsl345
Thu, 02-03-2011 - 9:52am
Hi Jennifer
I want to say I am sorry for your loss. In March of 2006, the same thing happened to me at 18w6d. My water broke and because I wasnt 23 weeks there was nothing they could do. The day before I had just started to feel movement. It was the most devastating experience I have ever had.

I don't think my doctor gave me a time frame to wait, but we began trying right away. I think once you feel ready, go for it. I understanding the doctors wanting a cycle for dating purposes, but I think that is what the "dating u/s" is for.

I hope your stay here is short. {{Hugs}}

Sherilyn
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/13cede
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Registered: 05-12-2008
In reply to: jsl345
Thu, 02-03-2011 - 9:12am

Hi Jennifer, I am so sorry for your loss.

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Registered: 03-25-2010
In reply to: jsl345
Thu, 02-03-2011 - 9:08am
Hi, Jennifer,

((HUGS)) Welcome to the board. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Looks like you have some great advice already. Even though the reason we are here is terrible, I'm glad we found our way here. The board members are wonderful and as I'm sure you're finding out, are very supportive.

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Registered: 04-13-2010
In reply to: jsl345
Thu, 02-03-2011 - 2:53am
Hi Jennifer, I'm sorry for your loss. I can relate to the wondering if you'll have to wait that long again. It took us many years to get pg with our angel, and we lost him in the 35th week. I will never feel safe during pregnancy - I won't breathe until I hear that baby cry. My husband and I have been trying unsuccessfully since 1999 for our first. I pray we will all get the babies we deserve soon, it's all just so unfair.

I hope you'll find the support you are looking for here, this is a wonderful group of women. They've already given you great advice that I totally agree with.


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Registered: 07-23-2009
In reply to: jsl345
Thu, 02-03-2011 - 12:42am
I am so sorry for your loss! I lost my son at 16 wks in '08 I too thought i was safe never in my dreams thought id lose my baby. I would say when your emotionally ready to start ttc again. We started ttc oct '09. gl to you!

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