This is where I belong now I guess

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Registered: 08-31-2011
This is where I belong now I guess
Sat, 11-12-2011 - 12:16am

After TTC #2 for 3 months we got our BFP about 2 1/2 weeks ago. But alas I had some bleeding yesterday and when I saw my Dr. this morning I got the news I'd been dredding, miscarriage. Emotionally I'm devistated, something we've all been through on this board I'm sure. At this point I'm so worried that something is "wrong" and that having a second child will harder then we thought. Seems silly I know, but I can't shake the feeling. I know many Dr's advise to wait a couple months before trying again, but i just don't feel like I can wait. I feel like until we have another child our family won't be complete.

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Registered: 08-07-2007
Sun, 11-13-2011 - 6:48am
Try again when you're ready. You're fortunate that it only took you three tries to get a bfp. I'm sure your next little bean will stick.
Chouli, 34; DH 45 Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
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Registered: 08-10-1999
Sun, 11-13-2011 - 7:32pm
Hi Mandy,

I am so sorry for your loss. As long as there is nothing biologically at issue for you there is no medical reason to wait to TTC again. Most advise waiting until at least after your first AF before trying just so there is no issue when it comes to dating a pregnancy if you were to get pregnant the first month, which is not unheard of.

I hope you get your bfp soon, but in the mean time, come visit our other areas to share and gain support from other women here.




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Registered: 10-20-2008
Tue, 11-15-2011 - 9:19pm
Mandy, I think its hard not to feel like that after loss. Try to stay positive (I know, sometimes easier said than done!) Hopefully AF will return quickly and you will get a super sticky bean soon.

Mom to DS, July 2009
Expecting our little girl after three m/c - EDD 11/29/12