5 wk pg blabbermouth!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
5 wk pg blabbermouth!
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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 8:52pm

So you all know that EVERYONE at my school is pregnant, right?

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Registered: 02-04-2004
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 8:57pm

Katie,


You're close, come over and we'll split a vat of pasta and then desert on chocolate.

 

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 8:59pm

Dear Katie,


UGGHHHH!!

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Registered: 03-23-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 7:08am
Katie,

I cannot believe she would tell a whole school at 5 weeks. That is insane! Your desire to tell her to wait to tell people is normal, but too late. If something happens she will have to face everyone. I am waiting until about 8 months next time. ;)

I am sorry you are having to deal with this. Your chart looks great even for my inexperience with all this. Couple more weeks and you could be walking in school knowing you are pg too! I hope this is your month!

Grace

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Registered: 05-08-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 8:27am
i know exactly how you feel. i know this is a horrible thing to say but when i see people who take advantage of getting pregnant sometimes i'll wish that they had my problems, maybe then they would'nt take advantage of something as precious as having a baby, or to the people who dont take care of their children, when cps comes in and takes their kids away then they'll realize the mistakes they made and it will be too late. i'm sorry i don't mean to sound so cruel and nasty and i guess you're always gonna have people like that i just wish they would stop and realize how fortunate they are.
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Registered: 01-23-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 9:18am

Katie,


First off-

Stephanie

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Registered: 04-27-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 10:39am
I agree with Stephanie :)

Also, we wouldn't regret telling people about our pregnancy earlier if it had been uneventful. Its natural to want to share good news. I personally told everyone at about 7 weeks. But because we m/c, my husband and I have already said that if we conceive again we will wait at least until the first trimester is completely over. (I was 12 weeks when I found out it measured just over 7 weeks with no heartbeat) Just to cut down on things like people walking up to my husband at work to ask how is wifes pregnancy is coming along, etc.

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 11:24am
Katie,

I'm so sorry. I know how you feel.

I agree with Stephanie (of course). I know I hurt my bro and sis in law's feelings when I came home from my honeymoon pregnant--they'd been trying for years (and are four years younger than me). The next time I'll probably tell as early as I did this time. I don't do well keeping things in, thats just not me...but I'll be MUCH more sensitive to others the next time around...especially my SIL who may not ever have kids because her cycle is under 21 days (I wish I could get her charting!)

Yesterday I saw this woman at work...she's HUGE pregnant...I thought I was in a time warp. She gave birth less than a year ago to a healthy baby girl. So lucky. I don't think she has any idea.

This will knock you over: I was talking to my two student workers who were teenage moms yesterday and they were asking if I was pregnant yet...they were talking to me like I didn't know HOW to get pregnant...so we were talking about how a cycle works...and one of them says "Its impossible to get pregnant after your period because everything is already cleaned out! You have to get pregnant on your period."

*sigh* and *these* people have kids...

Kether

Kether Married to Dave (12-6-2003) Mom to Liam (1-23-2005)
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Registered: 03-21-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 11:40am
(((Katie)))

I know it's hard, but I'm sure she really just wants to share her good news. When I was pg with DS I told people at work at about 5-6 weeks. I was just excited and bad at keeping secrets.

I told more people than I should have last time before the m/c, and then I just had to deal with telling them all, which was awful. Especially since there was a grapevine effect where people I hardly know were sending me "congrats" emails on the day of my D&C, HORRIBLE! I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

This time I'm 8 weeks so far and I've only told DH, my best friend and the two gals I work out with (one of them guessed anyway since I was so tired!). My friends want to know why I'm not telling people yet. DUH!!!!

Your feelings are perfectly normal, and I hope ranting here helps. I feel so cheated that we can't just enjoy pg this time and be excited because there's always that dark cloud around us.

Take care, I hope you have a better day

Dawn
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Registered: 04-11-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 12:13pm
blabbermouth! LOL!

I can top this- a woman I work with sent out an email BEFORE she was even 4 weeks pregnant! She was about 9 dpo and had a blood test done and sent out an announcement the next day. I couldn't believe it! It was their first month trying too. 5 months later- of course the only "bad" thing that happened to her so far is that it is a girl instead of a boy she wanted. She was soooooo devastated! Wouldn't it be nice if that was your biggest "problem!"

Hang in there- you are not alone!

-Jenn

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Registered: 04-27-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 12:13pm
I know if I conceive again it will be really hard not to tell anyone! We have kids and they're the main ones we don't want to tell because they were so upset by my m/c. Thats going to be the hardest! Because I know how excited I would be. And obsessed!

My ex husbands wife got pregnant barely 2 weeks before me the last time. So constantly I hear from my daughter about how her StepMoms pregnancy is going, etc. Its only a little hard for me. When I heard about her ultrasound appointment and that they're having a boy I cried. I was truly happy for her but a boy had been what I was hoping for and I was so looking forward to the ultrasound where they might determine the sex. Otherwise I do fine seeing pregnant women, etc. I feel somewhat envious, but no overwhelming feelings. I tend to be upbeat and optimistic. So I generally feel happy for them that they are carefree and able to be so. I suppose that could change over time, but right now its still early in the ttc process. So I'm hopeful :)

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