Are they trying to piss me off??????

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Registered: 07-15-2004
Are they trying to piss me off??????
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Thu, 07-22-2004 - 8:41am
What is it with people the last couple of days? Everyone is on my nerves. Surely there is something wrong with them and not me right?

First I went to get take out last night and saw a girl that I went to school with and she came rushing over to me ~hugs (blah, blah) she takes her hand and rubs my belly and says, when are you going to start showing? I can not even tell you are pregnant! I am thinking no sh*t I dont look pregnant you insensitive witch. She had no idea that I had lost the baby.

Not to mention that AF brought her twin sister Crampy. Then I could NOT sleep last night and had to be at work at 5:30.

My whole house is a wreck and I need to finish packing the rest of the house. I am siting here at work with nothiing to do - thinking about sleeping and all the things I could be doing at home.

My ex boyfriend called me two days ago out of the blue- have not talked to him in 6 years. I have been married for five. He tells me that he will never find anyone like me again and that I am his soulmate and that there is not a day that goes by that he does not think about me... asked if I was happy in my marriage... would I be willing to start over with him... I am just staring at the wall as he is talking. Thinking what the hell is wrong with him? I told him that it was nice to hear from him and that I was happy to know that he was successful, but no I loved my husband very much and not him. Then he reminded me why we never worked out when he says---- I bet that you and I would be able to get pregnant with out a problem and have a big family.... What an ass!

And finally... they opened a full service bakery across the street from work. so i literally get to smell doughnuts and cookies all day long.. while on my period... freakin lovely.

Could some one tell me why is everyone trying TO MAKE ME MISERABLE???????????



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Registered: 10-10-2003
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 9:44am

That totally sucks!! Where do I begin????

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Thu, 07-22-2004 - 11:27am
Julia,

She totally should have heard. I really do not talk to her anymore after I asked her to house sit and came home to my house trashed and a condom wrapper in my bed... Needless to say we don't shop together on weekends... ya know what I mean? I live in such a small town it is not even funny, You sneeze and everyone hears and half of them start spreading a rumor that you have pnumonia and are gonna croak, kinda town. So it is my assumption that she totally knew and was being an a>>.


As for the ex. Oh wow. I am still so shocked by it that I can not even think straight. I have not seen/spoken to him since we broke up. We lived 30 min apart while we dated. We were very serious with each other. Talking about future plans and all... then he broke my heart and basically said that he needed space while he finished college and then we would get back together (like I was supposed to wait or something) and in the midst of my heart ache one day I was at work and looked up to see the most gorgeous face I have ever seen and at that moment fell in love. Three months later I was engaged and married a yr later.

Then the idiot calls and brings up all those feelings again, that I had tried so hard to forget...I think that there is part of you that will always love your "first love"

anyways he goes on to say that he still loves me and wants to see me and that he has been trying to find me for 3 yrs and that there has never been "another" if you know what I mean. Says that no one compares to me yada yada yada. I am thinking to myself he has got to be kidding me.... and then I am thinking that when is the last time my dh has said this to me...

Oh well I hate it but I really have no feelings for him and I do not want to see him and when I told him that he got pissed. He said I let you walk out of my life one time and I am not going to let you do it again. I was like you do not have a choice in this, you had your chance!

So then I debated about tellig DH but I figured he is my bf I tell him everything. So I told him (thinking he may get jealous or something) all he says is hmmmm....thats weird.

HMMM thats weird? I guess he feels certain I am not going anywhere huh?

Thanks for letting me get this out, I do not have anyone else I would want to tell this to and since DH was so talkitive on the matter... I get to bore yall with it!



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Thu, 07-22-2004 - 12:04pm

Not at all.

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Thu, 07-22-2004 - 12:31pm
Sorry you're having such a crappy day. As for that "friend", I think you should have punched her in the face!! First of all, she shouldn't have used your bed (the condom was just gross) and second, what a b*tch to rub it in that you're not pg.

And the ex....what is he thinking? Why do men always want the ones they can't have? I'd be flattered but not interested. And your DH was probably just trying not to appear jealous. I'm sure it bothered him.

The bakery across the street is just what you need. Head over there and some cookies and a danish.

Chin up, babe. Tomorrow has to be better.

Stacy

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Registered: 07-28-2004
Sun, 08-01-2004 - 9:43am
i am new here, and was just going thru some of the discussions. I know im like a week behind. but it is just amazing to meet real people. i can totally relate. excuse me for saying....but what a b*tch!! your "friend" that is. i had a similar experience. a girlfriend of a friend had just found out that i was pg, but not that i had mc. she was all happy and congratulating me and got the bad news. The bitchy part....she hadn't long ago had an abortion. how do you ride both sides of the fence? i don't know...maybe im just sensitive. seems like everyone is an ass when you're down. thanks for sharing. oh and the old flame....good move putting him out. go ahead and eat some doughnuts. we deserve em
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Sun, 08-01-2004 - 11:31am
WOW! What a situation!! I think I would have wanted to punch the "friend" out right there on the spot!! I had a "friend" at the E.R. when I lost my twins. She happened to have a job in the sono area. Though she didn't have me as her patient, she had to come in to help the tech that was taking care of me. Because of a past situation, I had not talked to this woman in at least 2 years. She acutally had the nerve to show her face in the E.R. to try to talk to me after the sono. As if I didn't have enough going on!! I thought my husband was going to snap!! She is lucky we had both our moms in the room or it could've been bad. What are women like that thinking???

With such a small town, I think your "friend" was being an idiot. How very insensitive!!

I can relate to your ex story. My ex stopped once to talk with my step-father to ask if I was happy and to tell me that if I ever need to talk to come see him (he worked just down the street from my mom's house). Boy, I didn't know whether to be mad at my mom for telling me or the ex for thinking I would actually come to see him. He was my "first love" so he must have assumed I would come running or something. I was proud of myself for not going to see him. It did make me feel awkward for awhile though. I did tell my DH about it later. I didn't want him to be mad at my mom for telling me.

As for the bakery store...How can you stay away??? You have to visit it once just to make sure they are selling good food :-) Indulge yourself once in awhile. Everyone needs to!!

Hope you are having better days!! This is such a good place to vent your frustrations of all kinds!!

Take care!

Linda

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Registered: 07-15-2004
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 7:51am

Thanks everyone!



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