Follow up appt...

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Registered: 03-30-2006
Follow up appt...
Tue, 12-06-2011 - 7:24pm

I am picking a new doctor after this appointment. Either this board and the internet are wrong or this doctor needs to figure out some new info. She told me that I cant do anything until AF comes back. She said that the surgery date is not CD 1 and how I shouldnt temp becuz there is too many factors that plays in the temp. So then I ask her about doing a hormone blood test to see where my hormones are. She refused. She said that my HCG isnt at 0 yet.I then tell her that I tested a week after and got a positive but how the following week n half the test came up negative. I wanted to see if I had already O'd to make sure that this doesnt happen again. to catch anything wrong early on. She said that she doesnt check to see anything yet.

Told her ive heard of people getting pregnant before the first AF. she still didnt care. SO after me balling, she said that i was arguing with her and that i should go somewhere else.I said to bare with me, that it hit me that tomorrow will be a month that i found this all out. that im still just so ? How hard is it that I wanted to know where im at in my cycle? wanted to see if im about to have my period with it being cd26. even now what should i believe. that cramps b4 thanksgiving was nothing, that little crampy on sun and today with sore bb's. temp today was 97.5 at 715 am with lack of sleep. if i would of temped at the normal time with enough sleep would of been 98.1. i go to FF and check my cervix, take temps,watch cervical fluid. and now she tells me dont temp at all????? so after all this she was about to leave and i said that we hadnt even discussed the surgery. i swear if you dont ask questions they will not tell you. i wanted to know if there was any scarring. she said she couldnt see my uterus. asked what she did when she checked me. a pelvic exam and looked at my cervix. then i asked what about my baby. she didnt know how far along it was. said that there was tissue and membrane. so i asked did it stop growing as soon as it implanted. she also said about how from the get go that it was unhealthy. said if i would of come in sooner that maybe checking my progesterone would of made a difference.

so my appointment came to i find another doc instead of waiting 2 weeks to see AF will come. I dont want to wait. I do believe she was right when she said that she was telling me what i didnt want to hear and i started asking well what about this what about that. i have looked online about trying to conceive. my cycles are looooong girls. doesnt it make sense to see where my hormones are at 26 days after? see where im at then decide hey its cd26, regular cycle im 2 days away from AF.if not then its not a normal cycle so why not get the process going?

Deep breath...think im emotional from a month of this and then appointment didnt go well. her telling me to wait. i dont have the patience. 9 years of time and time again getting one step closer. please all i want is to fix my hormones, ovulate and conceive our baby!

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Registered: 08-10-1999
Tue, 12-06-2011 - 9:20pm
Oh my goodness chica. I am so, so very sorry that you had to go through an appointment like that . Huge, huge (((HUGS))) coming your way!

First of all, you have EVERY right to ask for a test to see where your HCG is at. It SHOULD be by zero by now, and there is absolutely NO REASON for her to talk to you like that. You pay HER. You have every right to know what's going on in your body. It sounds like she was suffering from a severe case of the lazies to me.

There is no reason for you not to temp, there is no reason for you not to use OPK's. I would HIGHLY suggest going someplace else where they don't take it personally when you want to advocate for your own health. Have them check your HCG levels to make sure that they are back down to 0, them talk to them about you wanting to try again ASAP and that you are looking for a partnership with your health care advisors towards that end.

Again, I am so sorry you've had to go through that kind of an appointment. I've BTDT and it set me back a loooong time. I am hoping that you don't take the route that I took and, instead, take charge and get what you want.

Much luck to you, and I hope you keep us posted. (((HUGS)))




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Registered: 06-28-2010
Wed, 12-07-2011 - 12:52am
Hey read the whole post I will post more on this tomorrow but want to say I am so sorry you had to go through An appointment like that :( hang in there

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