Follow Up Appt...

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Registered: 10-19-2011
Follow Up Appt...
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Wed, 11-16-2011 - 8:09pm

I'm frustrated! So my husband and I went to my follow up appointment for my 2nd miscarriage and my midwife did nothing. She said that they don't usually do anything until after 3 because they don't consider it a recurrent miscarriage until 3. And the only thing she would do then is to test for clotting disorders, which I already had done in the hospital when I delivered after my 1st miscarriage. She said if I wanted to I could go see a high risk mother/baby specialist, but that she didn't think I needed to. She said that since I had a 2nd trimester miscarriage and then a chemical pregnancy that they probably aren't related and she doesn't consider me at any higher risk of having another miscarriage and doesn't think we need to do anything at this point, except keep ttc, and try not to get stressed about it. And she said that we know I can get pregnant. I guess I just expect more. I try so hard to not be the patient that is a nurse and lets the whole place know that she's a nurse. But I really wanted to say I know too much and you need to run the following tests. I managed to restrain myself. But I just feel like we should test something. What did your doctors do and at what point?

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Wed, 11-16-2011 - 10:05pm
I will be honest, mine didn't do anything until after his last one (my third). Now they have been all over everything. I'm happy that they are all over it now, but it was so frustrating before.

Don't be afraid to ask for it. You need to be your own best advocate- which, admittedly, I had been really bad at previously. You may have to pay to have it done, but there is NO REASON they can't order the testing for you. Most of it was done with a few vials of blood and a pap-type screening.

FX that they will step up and help you figure this out. Please keep us posted. ((HUGS))

 


 


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Thu, 11-17-2011 - 5:08am
I didn't have multiple m/c's but I am always in favor of people being their own advocate with the medical community. You are, in essence, hiring them. And if they aren't providing the care/treatment you want, hire a different one. When we had our m/c and found out our Angel had trisomy 13, we requested genetic testing for us. Cost $900 but it gave us the peace of mind that its not something that would happen again. Do you know the cause of your first m/c? Do I understand it correctly that chem pregnancies are usually a genetic problem? You could get tested too.
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Tue, 11-22-2011 - 7:20pm
I know this sounds bad but I lied so I could get the testing lol :/ I feel guilty from time to time.. But if you want the testing push the issue.. Tell they give in I would :)

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Wed, 11-23-2011 - 12:26am

No, we don't know why we lost the first one. I was 16 weeks, and started bleeding pretty heavily, so we went to the ER since it was a Sat, they did an ultrasound and said there was no heartbeat, they had one of the ob residents come down and do another ultrasound, she confirmed no heartbeat and measured the baby and said he only measured about 12 weeks. So we had lost him right after our last appt. They sent