Friend having baby soon / had same EDD

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Registered: 05-03-2004
Friend having baby soon / had same EDD
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 2:44pm
Talk to My friend last night, she is going to get induced tonight. Mon was mine and hers EDD. I happy for her that she will be having her baby. But at the same time I am sad because instead of waiting to poas I should be having a baby right now. Mon day was a horrible day. I came into work to find our copier had died. Nothing was done right. Then of course my DH didn't remember that it was my EDD and my DD was unusually a pain. So I had a Bad day ontop of a bad day. And my one friend who I thought would understand said well its sad but you'll get your baby. I just wanted to scream I know eventually "I'll get my baby" but i should already have it and I'm pissed. I think I have endured all I can take for a while. In the last year and a half I've had Viral menigitis, Inflammed Ribs, Got Pregnant, m/c, Had cysts removed along w/ my gallbladder and now I broke My foot. I just want a BFP and Have a H&H baby. Well i think I'm good now. Thanks For the vent.



~i~ 1-5-04

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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 4:40pm

I am so sorry for you right now, you have had a hard time of it havent you.

I understand where you are coming from. A girl a couple of doors down from where I live (who is friends with my parents) announced on the day of my m/c that she was pg. A couple of weeks later she announced her due date - same as mine. I was very upset, but let it pass, thought I could get over it, you know how it goes. Then on Monday last week, she had her 20 week scan and found out that she was expecting a boy. It was just another harsh reminder that I too could have been finding out the sex of my baby right now. I know it is only going to get harder for me with each month that passes, but I am praying for a BFP before my due date of September 21st (which is also my DD birthday).

I hope that you feel better soon, both mentally and physically.

Luv and Good Luck to you in the future.


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Registered: 10-10-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 7:37pm
(((Hugs))) That totally sucks. I found I had to distance myself from my friend that just had a baby around my m/c. It just was too much for me. Luckily I was able to tell her how I felt devestated for me and thrilled for her, that I just needed time to come to terms. She was excellent and gave me space. Now we've picked up where I left off like nothing ever happened. I'm very grateful. Don't feel bad for blowing off steam, especially here! Blow away LOL. Feel better. It might surprise you, you just might have a tremendous connection with this little one. Good luck.
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Registered: 06-02-2003
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 5:57pm
Hi Sabrina,

I'm sorry that you've had such a hard time with the sicknesses and the m/c. It is a horrible feeling to be happy for someone else and sad about your own situation. My SIL was due around the time I was due but I m/c'd. When the baby arrived everyone forgot about what I had been through and bombarded me with pics and news of the baby's arrival. I was happy for her and depressed about my loss. I was also mad because they didn't think I should be hurt over my loss by the time of my due date! I was supposed to get over it as I was told by my mom! Anyway, your time is coming sweetie. I am sending tons of baby dust your way.


Teela edd 8/28