F/U update

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Thu, 08-09-2012 - 4:42pm
So yesterday I had my follow up appr from my m/c and d&c. We sent tissue out to be tested. There were no chromosomal abnormalities. Everything was normal. We were having a girl. Finding out what you were having us the hardest part. So basically it was probably really really really bad luck that we have had 2 miscarriages. Either way I asked to be tested for clotting disorders thyroid vitamin deficiencies toxoplasmosis.... Pretty much water ever they can do via blood test. They are also testing my husband and my chromosomes. I just want to eliminate all possibilities of what could be wrong as possible. We should have all the results back before we are able to begin trying again which should be after af shows... whenever that is. Thank you so much for all your support so far.
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Sun, 08-12-2012 - 5:10pm

That's a great start!  Just know that whatever is right for you and your DH is what you should go with.  Doesn't matter what anyone else say.  We all will support whatever you decide to do!  It is so difficult to lose 2 in a row.  I am keeping my fingers crossed for you though.  Oh AF came yesterday.  The cramping is awful but atleast she showed up right about on time.

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Sat, 08-11-2012 - 10:55pm

also, wanted to let you know after your 2nd m/c (D&C), it may take a bit longer for AF to show.  Your body gets a bit messed up, after 2 losses. 

my 1st loss, got AF 3.5 weeks after, 2nd loss got AF 6 weeks after!  So, don't freak out if she doesn't show, when you think.  :smileywink:

Good luck, I hope you get some answers, my girl!  :heart:

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Sat, 08-11-2012 - 10:51pm

Thanks Chrissy, you so sweet!  :heart:

I gave hope & inspiration, because I 'felt' so much hope....but after my 2nd loss? A part of my hope died along with the baby!  I really did NOT think, I would have to suffere another loss.

BUT, I am (finally) starting to come out of the 'fog' I've been in.  I guess I needed to grieve for a couple months, since our last loss? Our 1st loss, I wanted to jump back in TTC & get pg. right away.  But this last one....I didn't even want to have sex, or even the 'thought' of having to go see my doctor again!  :smileyindifferent:

I talked to DH, about the RE & told him, I just don't care to see him, or what he says, but if he wanted to see him? I would. And DH said, that's fine....go ahead & cancel. So, I canceled the appt.

Today, I am starting to feel a bit better and starting to think, "maybe we can try again." (but still not TTC, just not prevent & see what happens?  It's a start.  :smileyhappy:

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Sat, 08-11-2012 - 9:59am

I wish you didn't have to battle with your insurance.  I think it makes the whole process so much harder than it needs to be.  I hope you keep your RE appointment.  It doesn't hurt to see what they say and it is OK if you still don't want to continue trying.  It is exhausting to be seeing doctors all the time and constantly calling for test results.  I wish there was more that I could say.  You give so many people hope and encouragement here, I wish I could provide the same for.  Whatever you decide to do, just know that the decision is yours and whatever you and your DH decide will be right for you.

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Thu, 08-09-2012 - 5:58pm

I know, it's sad to find out!  We were having a boy.

I made an appt. to see an RE, at the end of the month.  But, I think I am going to cancel. 

Reason 1, I am battling my insurance (which canceled me, unexpectedly) to continue to pay for the D&C, I had last Jan. So, even tho, I am on DH's insurance now.  I just don't feel like seeing anymore doctors, to have to shell out more money (if nothing is life threatening) until I get this mess all sorted out! Reason 2, both my babies died, due to abnormal chromosomes.  So there's really nothing going on between DH & I, just bad luck of getting old eggs, due to my age. So, for me, I would need to be lucky enough to find a good egg to have a healthy baby.

Which makes me unsure of continuing?

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend