If you're pg, don't tell me how....

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Registered: 06-11-2004
If you're pg, don't tell me how....
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Thu, 07-22-2004 - 10:16pm
Why do pg people insist on compaining about how terrible morning sickness is, how tired they are, etc.

This from a friend/co-worker who knows A) I m/c and B) I'm desperatly ttc.

All she did was compain, complain, complain...I was NEVER like that when I was pg with DD or with baby I m/c.

I guess I'll just stop asking "how are you?" It wold be so refreshing to hear someone respond "I feel so fortunate and am loving every minute" instead of "ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, it's been sooooooo tough, blah, blah, blah...."


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Registered: 01-23-2004
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 10:25pm
People are stupid. I've begun to accept that.

When people complain about their morning sickness, swollen ankles, whatever, I always respond, "Wanna trade? I'd love to have those symptoms and be expecting a baby." It isn't mean, it is true. It usually stops those comments and it is just honest.

I'm sorry you're going through this. Two women at my work are due the same week I would have been with my first pregnancy and I've been through a lot of insensitive comments.

*hugs*

Hang in there!

Angie



Angels 2/1/04 and 7/1/04

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Registered: 04-21-2004
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 8:45am
I know exactly what you're going through and it sucks. I'm sorry she's being so insensitive to you.

My sis is pg (she got her BFP the day I had my D&C) so she's a constant reminder. The other day she was complaining about how uncomfortable she was and how she hated being pg. I wanted to smack her! Instead, I told her I would gladly trade with her. When she realized how her comments affected me, she apologized and quit complaining. Maybe you need to tell her coworker that.

Stacy

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Registered: 07-07-2003
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 10:23am
I am right there with you as well. My co-worker, who has sat beside me (cubemates) for 4 years was due 1 month before I would have been due and she spent the whole time complaining about how she didn't get to wear her cute summer clothes because she was so fat and how she hated being pregnant and just on and on with complaints. She knew that I'd had a m/c, but she never cared about what she said to me.

She had a perfect little girl on July 2nd and I'm happy for her, really - but I just wish she would have been more thankful and considerate during her 9 month adventure.

I just wanted you to know that you aren't alone. A good friend of mine just found out she's pregnant (4 weeks and 1 day) and she's already complaining, but I shut her down yesterday when she was saying that she already didn't feel good and figured it was going to be a miserable pregnancy. I told her, "You really should be thankful for what you have and be happy every day that you have such strong symptoms to let you know everything is going fine. Be happy for the gift you have been given. You never know when it could be taken from you." She shut right up and was embarassed. I doubt she'll be complaining around me anymore. Maybe, just maybe, she might even be more thankful for her pregnancy.

Maybe I'm mean. I just didn't want to hear it for 9 more months. You know?

***HUGS***

-Kathy

~i~ 01/22/04

edd 03/13/05

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Registered: 06-11-2004
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 10:54am
Thanks you guys. You're the best.

:)

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Registered: 10-10-2003
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 11:14am
I had a friend who despite having had a m/c did the same thing.
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