Just a thought....

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Registered: 05-06-2004
Just a thought....
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 3:43pm
I am a lurker here now, but spent many hours on this board while TTC my third child. I remember feeling sad when I felt like I was no longer welcome here, but not confident enough in my pregnancy to move to the PAL board. Just remember ladies, that when you find out you are pg is when you need the MOST support. Once you have had a miscarriage, that blissfully pregnant feeling is gone. What should be the happiest time in your life becomes the most nerve-wracking, stressful time.

I don't claim to know what it feels like to not ever be able to conceive or give birth to a child. That is a pain I will never know, and how I wish no one else ever would either. But, everyone who is on this board has been pg and knows the pain of losing a child. I have had two miscarriages and it hurts just as much the second time as it does the first and even if you have living children to love.

This board was my sanity while TTC and seeing the grads although painful at times offered me so much hope. Miscarriage is such a painful lonely experience and for some this may be their only support. I hope I'm not out of line by posting here, but I lurk here so often because I care about the people on this board and love to see how everyone is doing.

Just remember that no one is alone in their pain and even after getting a bfp, and even after giving birth, we still remember that pain. The anniversaries are really tough days, even if they were years ago, or you're pregnant at the time, or holding a baby in your arms. One child does not replace another and to lose any child is the worst pain in the world.

Wishing you all the very best,


DD 6-94

^i^ Zoe Colleen 12-96

DS 2-98

^i^ J. Patrick Daniel 8-02

DD 3-8-04