Lurkers Opinion on "grad issue"

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-06-2003
Lurkers Opinion on "grad issue"
Sat, 07-24-2004 - 6:23pm

I don't know that I have posted here in many, many months. I did have a m/c in Dec. 2002 but recently gave birth to a beautiful daughter in March. I was so upset when I was reading these posts I had to "share" my thoughts. I struggled with infertility for 3 years and then lost a pregnancy and it took another 6 months to get pregnant after that. I tried fertility treatments and all. Not that I don't understand the fact that it is hard to hear of another "friend" becoming pregnant but I think one of the most wonderful things in life to learn is how to take the focus off ourself and be happy for others. I volunteer for the Make A Wish foundation and see daily, parents losing their children. I also learn, daily how to appreciate life, no matter how difficult it seems. I am not trying to preach but I am saying that maybe it is time to celebrate another life being created and celebrate with these woman who have probably walked you through some hard days. No one here should ever feel they need to feel guilty for their blessing as I am sure no one else will want to feel guilty when they too become pregnant. Please do not take this as I don't understand, I have been there when it seemed everyone around me was getting pregnant and month after month I stared at that one line, but please the reason I still lurk on this board is because people seem to really care. Please do not take one minute of joy or happiness away from the recent grads!! This board should not only be for mourning but for celebrating, everyone in God's time.

Thanks for listening!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-29-2004
Sat, 07-24-2004 - 6:45pm
wow, beautifully written. I'm so glad you shared your story and your perspective - it's really inspiring and done with sensitivity. Thank you