mandatory IVF seminar

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mandatory IVF seminar
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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 5:21am

My RE has a checklist of things to do before we can have an IVF cycle. One of the things is attend a seminar about the process/policies/procedures. DH and I went last night. On the one hand it was long and we didn't learn much. But I can see their point in requiring it. Not everyone does all the research first and this is the clinic's version of informed consent.

All 5 of the clinic's RE's were there, and as we sat in the audience I pointed, whispered and said "He's been in my business, she's been in my business..." I've had some Saturday IUIs and get whoever is on-call, so 4 out of 5 have seen my lower half.

Two things surprised me: 1. the frozen embryos that were extra in an IVF cycle, survive and can be transfered at any time in the future. Two yrs, ten yrs, any time. 2. It was a packed room of people preparing for this last-ditch effort and displayed a serious cross section of society. There were people of all ages, nationalities, etc. You can definitely see that infertility isn't selective.

So we only have a few more things to do. I need to clear up this metritis, DH needs to go to the sperm specialist, we both need blood work, and then it's GAME ON in June!

Chouli, 34; DH 45 Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 7:07am
Yeah that is what they refer to when they say FET - frozen embryo transfer. The FET cycles are much less expensive than the fresh cycles. $3000 or so as opposed to $15K as they don;t need to stim you or retreive eggs. All they have to do is thaw them and put them back. Thawed embryos do lose a little bit of quality but not so much that it doesn't work all the time! We went to one of those a couple years ago and we left in the middle. Just because of what you said. It was soooo long and I knew 90% of what they were saying. The other women that didn't already know were prolonging the whole thing asking your typical questions - not just about IVF but about TTC in general. I know I should be more compassionate having been there for so many years but it's for that same reason that I couldn't handle it. My patience is non-existent at this point.
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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 8:39am
Well now its making me wonder about the two shared risk plans. Do I go all out and pay $23000 + meds for 3 fresh, 3 frozen or 70% reimbursement? Or do I trust a little that it will work and pay $18000 + meds for two fresh two frozen, no reimbursement?
Chouli, 34; DH 45 Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 9:47am

How exciting to be taking the plunge!!!

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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 10:22am
Chouli, I just wanted to say that I'm so excited for you! And will be sending major stick vibes your way come June!!!




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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 1:12pm
Chouli - I have a friend who has 2 kids from IVF, one from a fresh transfer, and then just had her second child in October from a frozen embryo - it had been frozen for like 3+ years! So it definitely can work.
Kelly, mom to 4 year old Lexi, wife to Rob TTC Number 2 since April 2010, with a loss in June 2010 at 4.5 weeks, and a loss in April 2011 at 8 weeks (possibly ectopic). Saw the RE in May 2011, we were moving forward with testing and an IUI when we
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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 1:31pm
Well, I think that depends on your finances. If it were me, I would go with the $18K because they are fairly certain IVF would work for me AND because it would be SO hard for us to even come up with $18K. To come up with another $5K would be so hard for us.

But with that said, if I could afford it without vomiting at the thought, I would go for the $23K. The only thing worse than a failed cycle is a a failed cycle that wiped out your finances.
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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 3:31pm

Hope June gets here super fast for you!!!

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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 4:21pm
DH is leaning toward the 23K option because it has the money-back guarantee. I hate to over spend and have success the first time. I have been looking around at success stories trying to decide where I'll fit. One of my friends only succeeded in her 3rd fresh cycle and never made enough embies to freeze any. One of my friends is pg with twins from her first IVF and has three in the freezer.

One of them said to me today "If you pay the $23K and get pg the first time...will you regret it? No. When you see your LO, all the costs will be worth it." Financially, we can do it with a payment plan.
Chouli, 34; DH 45 Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 4:49pm
Then I think you have your answer :)
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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 11:00pm

I agree with Chelle - I think you have your answer... Fresh vs. Frozen - everything I've read has shown that fresh, whether it be your own or donor eggs, will give you your best bet. My RE put it this way - they put back in you

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