The Nerve!!!

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Registered: 05-24-2004
The Nerve!!!
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 5:00pm
Well, I just got back from my drs appt. Need to vent!! I went to see the specialist at my drs office, I have seen him once before. At my first appt with him 2 years ago, he told me that I was getting older and that if I wanted more children I needed to do it very soon (I was 31 at the time). Now I see him today because I got three very faint BFPs last week, and my dr wanted me to see him because of my positive test for anticardiolipin antibodies. Well, I had tested again over the weekend and got two BFNs, so I wasn't sure if I had been pg and was going to m/c, or if the tests had been faulty (they were cheap ones off the internet). Still having pg symptoms (no AF, very nauseous, throwing up, very sore bbs, fatigued, etc.), so I called drs office back this am to make sure they still wanted to see me after the two BFNs. They said to keep the appt, so I did.

They did a pg test in the office that was BFN. So the specialist comes in and says basically there is nothing that he can do for me, then proceeds to tell me that the symptoms I am having are because I have been so upset over the m/c and that if they persist to call my gp. What the heck is he going to do for me?! Then he also tells me that he doesn't want me to try to get pg for at least 3 - 6 months because he can tell that I am not emotionally ready for another pg. How in the heck does he know what I am or am not ready for? And my symptoms are real, not imagined. I just wanted to know if it could be something from the m/c that is making me feel this way, or if it could be normal to have pms symptoms for 1 1/2 weeks before AF, if that is what is going on. Besides that, with this last pg they kept telling me I wasn't pg when I really was, it just took awhile for it to show up on a test (17 dpo). But to get brushed off and basically told it is all in my head really ticked me off! At the end of the visit he tells me I should feel better in a week or so, and that if I don't to call my gp. Once again, what in the heck is my gp going to do for me? I don't get it.

Anyway, just had to vent to get this off my chest. I cried all the way back to work, and now have tear streaks all down my face. Lovely!!

Hope to bear better news soon.

-Heather

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Registered: 03-31-2003
In reply to: abby0620
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 5:13pm
Heather,

I'm sorry, but those doctors can go to hell with their crappy pregnancy tests!!! I went to see my gp for a pg test because I needed to before I could get a referral to my OB. Well, she told me that my test was BFN and REFUSED to do a progesterone check on my bloodwork bc the test was negative (although she did agree to do a quant. preg. test because I ASSURED her that I had just chugged a bunch of water AND had just peed! I was so mad) The best part... my quant came back at 4w1d: 325!!!! I was so happy and I wanted to beat the crap out of her!

So, I would just tell them that you got another BFP (don't use anymore cheap internet tests, I always got negatives on those, when I got positives on everything else under the sun, a popsicle stick would have shown two lines where those internet tests wouldn't!) and make them give you a blood pregnancy test.

If the blood test comes up negative, assume that you had a chemical pregnancy and demand some kind of medical intervention to sustain a pregnancy (maybe some tests, maybe some progesterone) if they refuse, change doctors. Don't put up with their crap and making you feel bad.

(((HUGS))))

Good luck!

Camille

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Registered: 05-24-2004
In reply to: abby0620
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 5:47pm
Camille-

Thank you so much for your words of encouragement! I really needed to hear that right now. They just don't get it!! I think I will wait until Wednesday and get a FRE and try that. I will be 16 dpo then and should know for sure one way or the other. If there is any doubt after that point I am going to ask for bw, this is just crazy!!!

I am so glad to hear your numbers were so good, it is encouraging for the rest of us that other people are having good luck. I hope that baby sticks for you!! Sending SBV your way.

Thanks again for the encouragement and for understanding. That means so much!

-Heather

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In reply to: abby0620
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 6:27pm
Heather,

No problem! :) It drives me insane how some doctors treat us, as if we're idiots, when WE know our bodies more than anyone AND we've been freakin' thinking about this and researching all of this stuff for so long. They act like we think that pregnancy is something that you can from a toilet seat or something!

I really hope that your test is a BFP and that you get better treatment the next time you go to your doctor! :)

Camille

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In reply to: abby0620
Wed, 07-14-2004 - 4:32pm
Heather,

I'm sorry that the doctor you saw was such a jerk. Sometimes they can be just such big dorks. I'm not so happy with my gp after this last pregnancy test fiasco.

If you don't get AF by 21 dpo, demand more testing and if you don't like what they tell you, find another doctor. Go to Planned Parenthood...they are really compassionate people there!

Like he knows if you are ready or not. HA!

Hang in there. Demand good treatment!

Angie

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Registered: 06-30-2004
In reply to: abby0620
Wed, 07-14-2004 - 5:08pm
Heather-

I too would demand another test in a few days. And maybe buy a more expensive test to see if that gives you a different result (let's hope so!).

I have an off topic question for you. I saw that you tested positive for anticardiolipin antibodies. I did too. What is your OB telling you to do during your next pregnancy?

Do you mind sharing how you lost your last baby?

Thanks so much!

-Kate

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In reply to: abby0620
Thu, 07-15-2004 - 10:02am
Hi Kate!

Well, I started AF yesterday, so I guess that takes care of that. It is a bad one this time, but the nausea and throwing up have stopped so maybe my body is getting back to normal.

And I don't mind at all sharing how I lost my babies. It helps to talk about it with other people that understand. I got pg in Dec on our 2nd cycle trying. Everything was going great, I felt lousy but that is supposed to be a good thing when your pg (I have a 2 yr old and my pg started out the same way with him). I was 6w 2d when I started cramping really bad. I was mildly nervous, but everyone kept telling me it was normal to cramp more with a 2nd pg. I went to my ob and they did u/s and there was a sac but no baby. They kept telling me I just wasn't as far along as I thought I was. I knew I was that far along because I knew when I O'd and I took a HPT at 13dpo and it was BFP. But they convinced me that everything was fine and sent me home. I woke up the next morning and was bleeding very heavily. I was sobbing and called the ob and they got me in right away. I had another u/s and the sac had already started to detatch. I passed it 2 days later naturally.

My 2nd m/c was a lot like my first. I got pg in May. At 5w I started cramping again, went in for another u/s. They didn't see anything, but said that was normal for that early in the pg and not to worry. The next morning I woke up bleeding again, and passed it the next day. I wasn't surprised that time because I knew when I started cramping again that it was happening again. With both m/cs it felt very much like I was in labor, just not as intense. The cramping would come and go in waves.

So that is my story. They did several blood tests on me after the 2nd m/c, and that is when I tested positive for anticardiolipin antibodies (37). I have already started on one baby aspirin a day (81 mg). They want to just try that first and see how it goes (since I have had one successful pg they said they want to do minimal intervention at first). They also want to monitor me very closely for the first 3 months of my next pg. That is why I went to the specialist this time instead of my regular ob when I thought I might be pg. I definately do not want to go back to him again, but I love my regular ob and they are in practice together. So I guess I'll have to make a decision on that the next time I'm pg.

If you have any more questions, I'd be happy to share anything that might be helpful to you.

-Heather