njmom67

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Registered: 05-01-2003
njmom67
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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 1:20pm
Hello Grace,

I just read your reply to going crazy. We seem to have a few things in common. I am 37 going on 38 this summer. I am ttc#1. My DH to be (June 12) has two boys from a previous marriage and did not want anymore. After a lot of coaxing and you know...he has finally agreed to have one more. He was surprisingly excited when we got pg and the mc was a shock and blow for both of us. I love his boys very much and we are all excited about the wedding...but we both know that adding one more will really tie us all together. Just wish that AF would quit visiting for 9 months!

Good luck and lots of baby dust to you!

Kimmi

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Registered: 03-23-2004
In reply to: scott1967
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 2:41pm
Hi Kimmi,

Best wishes on your up and coming marriage. My DH and I are going on 4 years the end of June. We do seem to have alot in common. His DD is great, but I would love another of my own. I wouldn't be in such a rush if I was younger. Although my dr seems to think that I have plenty of time so wants me to wait 3 cycles. LOL like I can wait that long. I just figure I won't stress until after 3 months. How long have you been ttc?

Good luck to you as well!

Grace

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In reply to: scott1967
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 8:05am
Hey Grace,

What a great name.

It feels like we have been trying forever. I MC in November and I have been trying ever since. My DH has not always been on board for this adventure...not in the mood when he really needs to be. We had a bit of a talk about it this last month. His first two (6&11) just happened so he thinks that is how it is suppose to be...but his x-wife was not running out of time either. Looking forward to marriage but more looking forward to REALLY being a mom...hopefully!

Does your step child live with you? How old is your daughter?

Kimmi

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Registered: 03-23-2004
In reply to: scott1967
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 8:31am
Good Morning Kimmi,

DH don't always have same goals as we. My side was that although he had DD and I love her, she is still not mine. He has hard time seeing difference because he wants me to treat her like my daughter and I do, but there is still a difference. She lives with her mom but is only a few minutes away. She comes over a few times a week and stays over every weekend. She will be staying with us alot over summer. She will be 7 soon. I was thrilled when had DS(he was not planned but not avoided) but would love him to have a sibling closer to his age (he is 19 months) and one that is in house full-time. Plus I really want another one and was devastated when I lost my angel. How long have you two been together? Does he have custody? I know the feeling of wanting kids but make sure you give your marriage the attention it needs. We made some memories together before having DS and I am grateful for that.

Grace

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In reply to: scott1967
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 1:21pm
Hey,

Scott and I have been together for 3 years. We met at work and we spend all day together...eat lunch together and then have our evenings together. We are pretty much with eachother 24/7 and still enjoy eachothers company and have plenty to say. I never thought that I would meet a man that I would enjoy being around soooooo much. I am starting a new job after the wedding so that should add a new light to our relationship. I feel that I have been truely blessed.

We get the boys every other week. Before the wedding we get them two weeks in a row and also a couple of days for the honeymoon. They are wonderful and very well behaved. We are renting a house on a lake for the week (it is heaven). I can't wait. The marriage will bring a stability to their lives that they really need...mom has had several relationships and is currently moving out of another guys house. I love the boys very much...but they are not mine and I sooo desperatly want to hear that small voice calling me "Mom"! I often pray for twins because I think that I am only going to get one chance at this.

Lots of baby dust to you!!!!!!!!!!

Kimmi