Ob appt, very frustrating, confused

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Ob appt, very frustrating, confused
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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 5:17pm
So today kinda sucked. It was supposed to be my first prenatal a ppt, but turned into post m/c a ppt. So the nurse and doctor were clueless. Even though they sent me for lab work last week and called to say my hcg was back to 0, today when I get there the doc says, so you are here for pregnancy confirmation? It was hard to hear, so I said no I had a m/c. So she asks some questions. I told her I started getting positive tests on the 22nd of June and had morning sickness and wax so tired. I tested for 5 days with many brands including digital and all were bfp.. That sunday nite the m/s was better so I got worried. Took another test and it was positive. Monday the m/s was almost gone so I got very worried and my test that nite had faint lines. The next morning it looked negative. So i called the nurse and got hcg b/w. The doctor says it does not add up. How could I get all these positive tests and have my levels fall so quickly? She made it seem milk I was crazy. i do not know the answer. i know I was pregnant even if for. Short time. Plus that was definitely not a late period. If so it was very late, very heavy and full of cramps and clots, not like anything I experiences in the past. So she looks in my uterus and says, I see some old blood in. There but no pregnancy,duh. She had no explanations. Just sent me to the lab for another hcg, but y? I begged to get my thyroid checked and finally after begging she agreed. Don't know what to do from here. Prob find a new doc. She put my diagnosis as irregular menstrual period? Can you believe that??? Thanks for listening.

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Registered: 07-28-2009
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 7:14pm
That is total crap and I am SO mad for you! My BFP only lasted a few days and I had confirmed betas (albiet low but confirmed nonetheless!) I want to totally b!tch slap her for you.

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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 7:35pm
Thanks. I feel like she thinks I'm crazy and imagined the whole pregnancy. I will definitely get a new doctor soon. Doctors need some sensitivity.
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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 7:40pm
Oh no! Im so sorry that they wrote "irregular menstrual period" in your records instead of counting it as a pregnancy loss. Which is definitelywhat it is. You had more than enough positive HPTs to confirm a positive pregnancy, AND they even did blood work to confirm AT THEIR OWN OFFICE!

I would definitely be looking for a new doctor.
Has she never heard the term MISCARRIAGE before?! How awful.


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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 7:46pm
Thanks for your support. I'm still so angry at the doc. Arrrrrggghhh
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Sun, 07-11-2010 - 5:45pm
Oh wow I would find a new doctor For sure! That is crap hun, you dont need to beg for tests! I would start looking ASAP!
Good luck with everything~
~Jessica
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Sun, 07-11-2010 - 8:28pm
Yeah, I already started my new obgyn search. BTW, your pic is so cute! You guys look happy together, Jen
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Sun, 07-11-2010 - 8:59pm

ARGH! That is awful.
I will say that in part most Drs see so many ppl they have no clue what is going on, not that it should be that way. My old Dr (I switched while I was pregnant as I started spotting & my Dr was a nut case. She also told me after an u/s that it was a missed m.c from the prior month cuz my dates were off. Which the werent then when I told her I thought she was wrong she just dropped it. She sent me for bloodwork but she was also very crass & after that appt I found a new Dr.

Anyway, I dont see why your Dr said that makes no sense. Yes it does. My first m/c I had +hpt, then started bleeding the following day, I still had + tests for several days before they started getting lighter. Even then I went into MW at the time for bloodwork, I assumed they were doing hcg but they only took Progesterone so when I called back the following day they said oops...we should have taken hcg. This was a MW that Im sorta friends with...WHA? I was pissed but its not like it would have changed anything anyway.

Def. look for new Dr. I would be furious. I hate when they act like you are crazy or dont seem like they should even be practicing. I think every Dr has their faults but you have to choose what you can live with.

Sorry for an awful visit. AT least you got them to give you thyroid check.

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Mon, 07-12-2010 - 3:24pm
thanks, I already plan to make an appt with a new doc very soon, hopefully the next one will be more sincere and have a clue. hope you have a good week, Jen
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Mon, 07-12-2010 - 5:01pm

UGH what a witch!!! That is unreal the way she acted. I don't understand what she is saying doesn't make sense??? it makes sense to me and I am not a Dr.

I am glad you are looking for a new OB and keep looking until you find a great one. There are Dr's out there that have sensitivity, good bedside manner, and that will listen to their patients. I know because I finally found mine about 2.5 year ago and he is awesome!!

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Mon, 07-12-2010 - 9:13pm
Thanks, I said the same thing, how come we all know more than some of these docs? Have a good nite, Jen

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