RE consult today - IVF on the horizon

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RE consult today - IVF on the horizon
Thu, 01-20-2011 - 11:05am

We're starting the preparations for IVF in June. We talked about everything we've done to date. What's worked, what hasn't. DH's sperm count, my follicles. We discussed and discarded their IVF study. Discarded because its Mini-stim IVF w/o ICSI. At this point, we're both demoralized and frusterated and don't want a science project - we want our child. So we're going to figure out the finances and pay the $12,000 to get what we want.

What we'll be getting is: IVF w/ ICSI.

What we have to do in the meantime is: DH has to see a Male-Factor specialist to get his sperm count/quality improved. He's going to Bank several specimen in May after treatment to use as a backup for the IVF. He also needs

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 11:16am

I'm glad you have things worked out!

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 3:01pm
it's a great plan Chouli! My DH is similar - he always needs time to adjust to changes/big expenditures. I'm sure your DH will come around. Glad he is getting his man-cave time.
Kelly, mom to 4 year old Lexi, wife to Rob TTC Number 2 since April 2010, with a loss in June 2010 at 4.5 weeks, and a loss in April 2011 at 8 weeks (possibly ectopic). Saw the RE in May 2011, we were moving forward with testing and an IUI when we
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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 3:26pm

Chouli - I am so excited about your plan! Do you feel like you can finally just breath because you have a plan in place? I think IVF with ICSI is a great idea, especially with the challenges you've had with DH's sperm at times... This way you are guaranteed that the sperms gets into the egg!

I'm sure DH's reaction is just the "sticker shock" of it all, but once that wears off, I know he'll be great. This is such a good thing for the both of you to take the stress off him for feeling like a "failure" with the low sperm and keep you from beginning to resent him. I know that's how I felt when we decided to head down this road. I know there are no guarantee's, but it sure does give you a new sense of hope. FX that this is it for you!!!!!




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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 3:55pm

Sounds like a good plan Chouli.

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 4:43pm

I'm glad you have a plan. I think men need more time to mull things over. Women tend to be more expressive and guys more introspective especially in regards to financial issues (I know my DH is anyway). I think he will be fine once he has time to think through your plan and the whole process. I'm excited because I really think this is gonna work for you. And in the meantime I will pray for a natural mircale for you.

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 6:04pm

(((HUGS))) Chouli... I'm sure that's a big decision to make.

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 6:34pm

I'm so glad to see you excited! That does sound like a great plan. I'm sure you and DH will figure out the finances, no problem. I totally think saying no to the study and paying for what you really want is the best choice. Yay for the plan!!


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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 6:46pm
sounds like a great plan! I hope it works out and you get your baby (or babies) the first time!

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 7:20pm
I'm excited for you! I'm sure your DH will come around. Nothing in this life is certain, so if you have an opportunity to go for something like this, then do it. I'm sure that you'd rather spend the $12,000 on the chance to have your baby (or babies) than to some day wish for the "what ifs". I'm thinking of you!
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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 8:15pm

I'm excited for you!