Results from the testing...and a rant...

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Results from the testing...and a rant...
Mon, 08-23-2010 - 9:07pm

Well, ya know how I had all of that blood drawn for my chromosomal testing panel?

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Tue, 08-24-2010 - 12:13am

I really don't understand her email to you. How is being alone and poor an inspiring story? I also don't understand her last comment below either. I don't know if she means that if you share your story with others that you would be an inspiration. Very odd comments.

"Now here she sits alone, poor, and happy as ever, proclaiming that her God is powerful and wonderful. Her story was so inspiring. I pray that some day you will be able to be an inspiration to others"

Most of our immediate friends know we have been ttc for a long time and even that we had an IUI in June. I find it easier to share details with friends who have gone through infertility. I have a good friend who finally got PG on her 3rd IVF and she is due in January. I still confide in her even though she is PG now and I just had a loss. I do find that some friends can't really relate if they are fertile mertyl's. (sp?)

TTC 1st child since 2006
June 16, 2010: IUI w/ Femara BFP (Ectopic - Methotrexate shot) RE sidelined me until November cycle for next IUI :(

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Tue, 08-24-2010 - 9:00am inspire me.

TTC #1 October/November 2009

BFP December 14th, 2009 :)

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Tue, 08-24-2010 - 10:53am

((((HUGS))))) Teresa.... I've said all along that NO ONE understands what you're going through unless they have been through it themselves.

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Tue, 08-24-2010 - 10:56am


I am so busy at work I can’t even think straight but I wanted to take moment to post a reply to this. You know I know exactly how you feel.

Two main things I wanted to say:

1) My friend who is supposed to be my BFF in the whole world hurts my feelings all the time and has no idea…example after my 2nd loss (which by then was old news. After you have one m/c, no one cares about the others.)

Me: I have my follow up appt today. Dr says everything looks good.

Her: Appt for what? What looks good?

I felt like the most insignificant person on earth.

2) My DD’s cheer coach told me she was pregnant right after I told her I was pg the first time. Of course she is big and huge and happy. Every time I see her (twice a week for an hour) I want to bury my head in my arms and sob because she is a walking example of where I should be today.

I am not going to tell you we WILL get our babies someday. I can’t possibly know that; no one can. I do however wish for us both that if we can’t ever have our babies that someday we can make peace with that and that we’re not forever tormented with this longing and emptiness.


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Tue, 08-24-2010 - 12:16pm

Oh Teresa, I am just so sad after reading what you wrote.

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Tue, 08-24-2010 - 12:49pm

Oh, Teresa, I'm so sorry about all of this. :( The test results, the way your friends are making you feel, and just the day to day struggle that is TTCAM. First of all, let me just say that you are NOT a failure. Everyone on this board has benefited from having you around and you are an inspiration to us all RIGHT NOW!

I think that it's truly unfair that your friends are acting hurt when you chose not to divulge your very personal information to each and every one of them. It is such a difficult thing to talk about and have to repeat over and over. It's like living through it all over again each time. And women who haven't gone through it wind up either saying something completely unhelpful or even hurtful even though they don't mean it. It is ultimately your decision on how much and with whom you chose to share things and I'm honored that you chose to share them with us. :)


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Registered: 10-12-2008
Tue, 08-24-2010 - 1:02pm

Hi Teresa - I read through your whole "rant" and just want to add some support.


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Registered: 11-23-2006
Tue, 08-24-2010 - 1:14pm

Teresa, my heart breaks for you. I'm not sure I have many answers or advice for you. But I think that you should share with people what you feel led to share. Its personal, its a deep and difficult pain. And you have the right to tell or not tell