Off topic-vent, EX-WIVES!
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|Tue, 05-25-2004 - 12:42pm|
My DH and his ex are very good about the kids. The only thing you could say bad about the situation is that they might be loved too much. (I know that isn't really a bad thing.) I am always willing to take the kids, even on Thursdays when I'm off work. My feelings here have never been about the kids, they are about her.
We pay her twice as much child support, b/c he wanted it set up that way when they got divorced so he didn't have to worry about their clothes, insurance or anything. Ok, so I understand that part, even though she is living in a new house, driving new cars and boats, and going all over the country on vacation. The woman is a complete airhead, inconsiderate, and very disrespectful. She is constantly telling me how my house, and my trailer, and all of things DH offered to her in the divorce, were promised to her by my DH and he lied. She is constantly throwing out snotty comments about him to me (UM HIS WIFE YOU B*TCH!), even though he is an awesome dad.
So anyway, my complaint here is this. Last week I offered my nanny to her b/c DH who is normally off on Fridays was working, and she didn't have a sitter for their kids. She took me up on it, then on Friday took the kids from school early and didn't tell anyone. My nanny called me in a panic when she couldn't find the kids. I called DH yelled at him, and he called her and she said she didn't know who to call.. HELLO!!! You know all of our numbers.. She does this type of thing all the time, and I'm sick of it. She calls and asks me to take them and then never shows up. Plans vacations for a week, and doesn't call to make sure we can take the kids, just expects it. Even the kids normal sitter told me last night, she is doing the same thing to her. She nevers has the kids to school on time, and takes them out whenever she feels like it.
I told DH it is his responsibilty to deal with her, not mine. Maybe I just don't want to deal with the confrontation, or maybe I don't want to be the b*tchy new wife. I know if I say something she will make it out to be I don't want the kids around, and that's not true. My biggest concern here, it causes problems between DH and I, BIG ONES! Luckily last week when all this happened I think I was past my O, or we would have missed it. I think he needs to stand up to her, and think about my feelings.
Whether anyone responds or not, I feel better after typing this, and getting it off my chest. Thanks to anyone listening.