3 days since my nursling nursed

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Registered: 01-24-2012
3 days since my nursling nursed
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Mon, 07-09-2012 - 10:10am
DS hasn't asked to nurse since Friday. Because I felt I needed to cut back I wasn't offering but I didn't say no to him either. DH was keen for me to stop offering too. We were pretty much down to nursing at bedtime and naptimes only, for a few weeks. But now he lies down beside me and goes to sleep by himself. I'm feeling sad. He's only 21 months but I guess he must be ready. I miss nursing already! I can't believe that part of our relationship is over. I'm sad but I am also hopeful that it could improve our ttc journey. I'm also back on vitex. I had dreams of nursing two together. That's not looking very likely now. :smileysad: My mum said I should feel happy for a job well done. But I think he would have nursed longer had I been actively offering so I think I could have done better. I will never be one of those awesome Time Magazine nursing mamas. :smileysad: I'm sad and the heat here is killing me!
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Fri, 07-27-2012 - 5:40pm
Just to update, DS has been nursing at bedtime every night ever since. Can't believe we weaned for 4 days and my milk didn't dry up. It went down but he's still getting enough to make it worth his while.

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Sat, 07-28-2012 - 2:09am
Wow! That is so cool and interesting. I am happy for you both! It is nice to hang on to that one session of nursing/snuggly time for a bit longer. Hugs, Jasmine
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Sat, 07-28-2012 - 6:12am

awww, that is so nice.  Glad it wasn't such an abrupt end for you.  Hope DH doesn't mind too much :smileyhappy:

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Mon, 07-30-2012 - 5:47am
DH said he trusted my judgement so there was no problem there. We just needed the conversation. When my hormones are out of whack (like now!) I can get anxious and paranoid so I need clear communication! Yes, I'm happy to still have one nursing session at night. It's nice. I know tandem nursing is unlikely for me now but I can still dream. I'll feel much happier about finally weaning completely if it's totally DS's decision. I've encouraged him to this point but now I am encouraging him to continue with his night feed. I felt a sense of panic when he had stopped. It was weird.
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Sat, 08-11-2012 - 10:25am
I know this is late, but wanted to reply anyway...

DS did the same thing for MONTHS! He would stop for a couple of days, I would cry at the thought and he would pick it up again... the last several months were only night feeds (he was too busy during the day to be bothered!)... but it was a peaceful and beautiful process when he did wean and I was grateful it was on his terms. A few months after he weaned, he asked again but said the milk was sour :smileyhappy: My milk didn't dry up for 7 mos after he weaned (nursed until he was 2)!!!! so there was plenty if he decided to try again :smileyhappy:

Wishing you luck on getting your BFP and lots of praise for following your mommy heart and allowing your little one to call the shots on a very special and important relationship.

hugs,
karen lynn
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Sat, 08-11-2012 - 3:07pm
He's still nurses every night at bedtime. He has skipped the odd night but some nights he's extremely enthuiastic! My boobs feel like they've shrunk a lot. At the peak of our nursing days I was really lobsided because of an early nursing issue on one side. I'm pleased that they look almost the same again, albeit a couple of centimeters lower than before. Time will tell when we will have our last session. Thanks for your words of support. I hope you and your family are doing well! xxx
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Registered: 08-24-2006
Thu, 08-23-2012 - 9:46am
Oh I feel for you. I think I will miss nursing so much when my little one stops. You did am awesome job though! Think of how much gentler and kinder allowing him to slowly stop on his own (whether you offered or not) was! How awesome to nurse until 21 months! I agree with Jasmine, if he was still really really needing it, he would probably have fought a lot harder to giveit up. You did great! I also have dreams of nursing two together, so I understand that you would be sad about not getting to do that. (hugs)
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Registered: 08-24-2006
Thu, 08-23-2012 - 4:30pm
Sorry i just noticed i missed some posts. How wonderful that he started nursing again :smileyhappy: Must have been a nursing strike!