7 months post partum and ttc&bf update

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Registered: 09-07-2009
7 months post partum and ttc&bf update
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Mon, 10-17-2011 - 6:15pm

its a little quiet of this board at the moment so thought id make an update.

7 months after the traumatic birth of my second DD Tabitha, i have completed everything i set out to do in coming to terms with her pregnancy and birth, exploring every detail

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Tue, 10-18-2011 - 8:54pm
Wow you've done a lot! Sounds like you have a really nice plan in place for the next pregnancy. I'm jealous. We only have one homebirth midwife here and she doesn't do VBAC. I'm considering going to another state. My options are drive 3 hours, have a UC or a RCS. None make me excited about getting pg.
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Registered: 06-01-2004
Thu, 10-20-2011 - 1:14am
Thanks for sharing Natalie :) I am glad you have gone through some serious steps to come to a place of peace with your past births. It sounds like a difficult time to get through for sure. My first son was born under the care of a maternity OB practice of 5 doctors...they did all the standard interventions, mocked me when I hired my doulas (and were super rude to them in the hospital during labour), broke my water when I wasn't contracting enough, put me on pitocin shortly after, blah blah blah....I did get a vaginal birth but it was not what I expected or had hoped for even though a perfect little boy emerged from it all :) My 2nd and 3rd births were so much more satisfying under the care of my wonderful midwife. I very much hope that you get the experience you are wishing for the next time around - I know the most important thing is a healthy baby but it is a big bonus to feel empowered by the end of it all too.
As for me, baby girl is 6 months old and a house full of 3 is very busy for us. I still long for maybe one more but honestly there are days when I feel my plate is very full, and at 39, perhaps we are done. DH still feels that we are - I am hopeful that peace will come over me and I can finally agree with him without regret or sadness. Of course, I am still hopeful for a surprise or him changing his mind :)
Jasmine