Attention all current and past grad board members!

Community Leader
Registered: 06-01-2004
Attention all current and past grad board members!
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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 4:44pm

Our section down below looks like nobody graduates very much!!!!! Can you please (if you have time etc.) start a post down below for lurkers and new members.....We could title them for example "Jasmine's Story" and then give all the details about when AF returned, what methods you tried to help coax her back, supplements and vitamins that you used, OPK and temping info. (where you bought your OPK's, HPT's,), how you spent the 2ww, how early you tested, Beta's, etc. etc. etc......

I think it would be super helpful and inspiring for everyone to read these and great future references for new members.

It doesn't matter if you just got a BFP or if it is one from 2 years ago - please share any and all experiences ....I will start one tonight when all 3 are asleep :)

Thank you :)
Jasmine

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2012
That's a great idea. It's very inspiring to read success stories. My mum keeps telling me I need to wean my 15.5 month old but I really want to hang in there a bit longer. It would be really interesting to see the average time it takes for board members to get their BFP.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-07-2009
What a good idea Jasmine, and will also be nice to reflect on. I will post mine soon x
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2007

Jasmine-

This is a fantastic idea! I will post mine as soon as I can! :) It's amazing to see all the new members. Also,

Lilypie Maternity tickers


Community Leader
Registered: 06-01-2004
Hi Heather :) I was just wondering about you the other day and here you are!!!! Wow - 7 months - it is crazy I know .... our little miss is 10 months old now and I cannot believe that this time last year I was still pregnant and just praying for her to get here safe and sound...now she is sitting beside me looking at her books ! I have loved the past year with her and my boys - and am so sad that it is happening too fast! Oh and I have baby fever again which is crazy as my plate is soooo full already and the reality of another baby is not in the cards for us - I am forever grateful for what I have and am focusing on that and taking care of my 3 the very best I can.
Did you ever post your birth story for William ? I will be eager to hear your update and hope the little guy is okay. Tell us all the details of the past year please.
Hugs, Jasmine
p.s. Are you still the BD queen lol ? :) I remember looking in awe at your chart and wishing I could get just a bit of your libido !!!! Please send some my way ;-)
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2007

Heather's Story:

First, I found iVillage! I frequented many boards. Then we started TTC in May 2007 for my DD. No BFPs at all until March 21, 2008. That BFP was my DD, born November 14, 2008, 9 days after my 29th birthday. She was awesome. She breastfed for 3 years!!!! Yes, I said 3 years! 36 months :). During my first time TTC, I charted and temped and watched CM and if I tried EPO and Vitex, vitamin b6 and super B complex. I only used those in the last 2 cycles in which the first one I had a short LP and the second one I got preggo with DD. So, it took about 11 months to get preggo the first time. I was 28.

With my son, it was different. PPAF returned at exactly 14 months and 2 days. We had already started TTC #2 when DD was 3 months. By the time she was 14 months it was getting aggravating but I just told myself to chill out. Then I had a miscarriage in March 2010. We kept on and I got a beautiful BFP in late September 2010. I had blazing positives for 6 days but I was spotting. I was not as worried because it wasn't bad and I had 5 days of full on bleeding with DD right around the time I shouold have gotten AF. Well, it wasn't meant to be and on October 5th, I started to miscarry. I was so upset that I got into a car wreck with my daughter in the car three days after I started to miscarry. I had a little pot in my car and got busted because the cop searched my car, which I never consented to (it was bad, I was transported to the hossy cervical collar, sirens and all so I wasn't there) and it's not like it was easy to find....anyway, I am also on psych meds so he gave me a DUI because my prescription medications written by my doctor made me sleepy (I take some heavy stuff which normally I do fine no sleepiness at all but that day I took the GOOD muscle relaxers which I shouldn't have til I was not in the car but I was so distraught I couldn't think straight i know it was badd!!). So, that I will never, ever forget. The pain of the loss is what is most present in that memory. OY.

Anyway, we just kept at it and I got a BFP November 26, 2010 - Black Friday. I was so in shock, i took three FRERs and then a CBE digital. And then in July (due Aug 9/10 by my calc but not the doc), William was born. During the time which I was ttc with DS, I did so much. Charting, temping, checking CM, taking all the supplements I mentioned earlier plus more as time went on. Also, unfortunately, William couldn't breastfeed and he only got pumped milk for 2 months. :(

Neither pregnancy was easy by any means. With DD, I had DeQuervain's syndrome in my thumbs and side of my wrists, so I could barely use my hands. I had surgery on both wrists post-birth of DD. I also got Intrahepatic Cholestasis of Pregnancy. So that put me but especially the baby in danger (intrauterine fetal death), so delivery was required no later than 36/37 weeks. DD was born at 37w3 (induced at 37w1d).

With DS, I had Cholestasis again and on top of that developed preeclampsia at around 28 weeks. The problem with cholestasis is you itch so very very badly all over your whole body (you just cannot imagine!) chronically for which delivery can only relieve. They do have one medication that can get you a little further into your pregnancy and relieve about 40-50% of the itching so that was a big help for me both times. With DS, they had me at 36w2d, but I'm sure I was 35w6d and no later than that. So, they did an amnio that day (July 11) to see about his lung maturity and then we induced late that night because his lungs were good. That HURT so BAD!!!! I was contracting when they did it. It was awful. Also, I forgot to mention that with both pregnancies I had weekly NSTs in the 3T. So, anyway..... my little man was born the next day, July 12, 2011, our wedding anniversary, at 36 weeks.

I also wanted to mention a few more things. During my TTC days, I used regular OPKs and then switched the the CBE monitor, then to the CBE digi OPKs. I usually was an early tester so like 8 or 9 dpo. I ended up after a short time just using the FRERs, then with DS the CBE digis too. I spent the 2WW on pins and needles everytime. None of it was easy, but then who said it would be?

Hopefully you got through this okay...I am a SAHM with a 3 year old DD and a VERY DEMANDING 7 month old DS. My brain is fried. We are going to get DS evaluated by developmental specialists and a neurologist. He still isn't sitting or rolling over and there are other things. However, it could just be due to the severe reflux and severe colic he had. He screamed and constantly vomited 24/7 for 6 months, from the day he was born and NOTHING consoled him. Also, he was born a month early. So, praying it's nothing and he is just lazy...but he is a peanut at 7 months...just 13lbs6ozs!

If any one has any questions feel free to ask!!!

THANKS! Proud supporting mmber of iVillage pregnancy and parenting March 2007-February 2012. Almost 5 years! Yikes!

Heather

Proud mommy to a sweet (and FULLY potty trained) little girl Sophia Rose 3y3m

Proud mommy to a beautiful boy with a very STRONG personality, William Alfred almost 7.5 months

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2007

Hey Jasmine!

I can't say it has been easy at all with William. In fact, it has been the hardest, scariest and most challenging 7 months of my life. I even had a nervous breakdown so was hospitalized in November and December. That has never happened to me. It was scary as well. For the first 6 months, he just screamed and vomited everything. He was allergic to my BM (but he did get 2 months of it via botlle bc he couldn't BF), all milk-based formulas, even soy. So he is on a semi-elemental hypoallergenic formula for babies with food allergies and colic. He is doing much better with that and I just quit giving him the GERD medicines because none of them ever helped and he threw most of them up anyway due to taste. He's getting better now and we are going to take him to a developmental specialist and a neurologist as he is not rolling, sitting up, lots of things. So I hope he's just lazy and was hindered by all his suffering. It is hard to believe I made it through 7 months...I never thought I would. But here I am! It seems like yesterday we were still pregnant! I look back at all the belly pics I took and I have a bunch, especially for the first 24 weeks. I haven't posted my birth story I don't think but I will try my best to do so!

Good luck....and never say never cause life is always changing!

Heather

p.s. LOL nope i am no bd queen anymore...too tired!!! and boy what a screaming baby does to your libido...

Lilypie Maternity tickers


Community Leader
Registered: 06-01-2004
Oh Heather! My goodness - it has been a very rough time for you and your family. I am so sorry that your sweet #2 is having some issues - it must have been very hard for you to accept that he could not nurse especially after having been so dedicated to it for so long with your first. I truly hope that your hardest parts are behind you (and him!) and that he thrives now that he is a bit older and the food issues are sorted. Hopefully he is a late bloomer and will start hitting those milestones very soon. As for BD'ing - I am with you - it is a challenge these days as sleep is more appealing most of the time. I am trying hard to make an effort when everyone is asleep - am sure that one day, you will be back to your former glory in that department. Please keep stopping in to update and let me know how you are. Big hugs, Jasmine
Community Leader
Registered: 06-01-2004
Oh and as for "never say never cause life is always changing" - Truer words were never spoken. I think that being on this board for so long and my own experiences with making babies, I have learned that we are never truly in control of our experiences and you never know for sure what path your life will take - until you are there and walking in those shoes, one should never say never!