Back again for #3 (m/c mentioned)

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Registered: 06-16-2008
Back again for #3 (m/c mentioned)
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Fri, 01-06-2012 - 9:58am

Hi all,

I am currently BF my 11.5 month old girl. I have a DS aged 5.5years whom I nursed until 2.5 years. I used to spend a fair bit of time on the iVillage TTC boards and spent a good year and a half here (somewhere between 2006- 2008ish) AF hasn't returned and I'm getting really itchy to start TTC again.

My DS was a very easy conception but we hadA LOT of difficulty conceiving DD. My first PPAF with DS was at 15 months but I had a luteal phase defect for a long time (took vit B etc and it helped). I stopped BF DS at 2.5 years as we still had not conceived. Long, grueling story made short, had a lap, found minimal endo, got pg natutally the following month but had an early m/c, did 3 IUIs, and then got succesful with our first IVF attempt. Soooo I'm concerned about it taking soooo long this time. The age gap between my children (4 years, 9 months) has been a source of grief (I sometimes feel like we're missing a LO in between there) but also a blesssing (DS is an excellent big brother and a big help).

My DD is a not a comfort nurser like DS was. She's nightweaned (about 1.5months ago) and nurses 4-5 times/day. DS nursed much much more at this time. I'm surprised AF hasn't returned yet. I am talking Vit B but not vitex (didn't help me last time).

Anywho, we're going to try naturally for a bit as they really classified us as unexplained. We don't have any embryos as we choose to only fertilize a small number of eggs (my DH is Catholic and this is how we compromised so we wouldn't have to freeze or destroy embryos later on). Tricky business considering they retrieved 18 eggs. Clinic said it was a first for them but they were so awesome about it all. Thank goodness it worked though. I was wondering if I could use wild yam cream to bring on AF and then try soy isoflavones to get things going. Anyone try this?

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Registered: 06-02-2010
Sat, 01-07-2012 - 1:40pm
Hi There,

I'm sorry to hear of the MC you endured and all the difficulty conceiving. We had unexplained infertility TTC our 2nd as well. We didn't have to go as far as IVF, luckily after a year the meds and IUI worked. It was totally random after having such an easy go of TTC #1. I joked that hubby and I just looked at each other and wham!

I really wasn't sure what to expect TTC #3 after all that.. I hadn't O'd without meds in years! Much to my surprise we were able to TTC #3 naturally! Never thought it would happen again! We didn't use wild yam or the Soy isoflavones... just time and patience this time around.

Sorry, longer that expected, just wanted to give a lil' hope that TTC each can be so totally different! I'll be crossin' all crossables the same is true for you!! :)

L
Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
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Registered: 06-01-2004
Sun, 01-08-2012 - 1:33am
Hello hello Hello!!!! I totally remember you from years ago on this board :) I had no idea you ended up doing IVF too - and am honoured that you followed my IVF journey to #3.....it was a rough one at times, as you clearly already know first hand - but what a miracle she is! My DH took a lot of convincing too and I am sometimes glad that we only had 2 embryos by the time it was time to transfer. DH is happy with 3 children and I don't know what I would have done if we had frozen any. Your compromise was very admirable as it must have been hard to resist the temptation to fertilize as many as possible. In any event, I am so very glad for you that your first time around worked - we were categorized as unexplained IF (except for my age of course) so I secretly harbour hopes of maybe getting one of those surprise/oops BFP's one day soon lol :) That would require BD'ing though lol and there is just not much of that going on these days.
Anyways, i am so glad you have rejoined us and I really truly hope that you can get pregnant without the interventions this time. I don't know much about the soy isoflavones but know that some mamas on the board have used them so hopefully they will chime in here.
Good luck and please stick around for awhile!
Hugs, Jasmine
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Registered: 06-16-2008
Mon, 01-09-2012 - 8:42am

L- Thanks for sharing your story. I always love hearing about natural BFPs after infertility treatment. I'm hoping we'll have the same luck. They only times I got pg on my own were 2 months after stopping BCP and 1 month after a lap to remove endo. So I'm thinking if I can get my cycle sooner and regulate it I may have a better chance as it seems that endo is suppressed during nursing (as it is with BCP and the removal of endo)

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Registered: 06-16-2008

L- Thanks for sharing your story. I always love hearing about natural BFPs after infertility treatment. I'm hoping we'll have the same luck. They only times I got pg on my own were 2 months after stopping BCP and 1 month after a lap to remove endo. So I'm thinking if I can get my cycle sooner and regulate it I may have a better chance as it seems that endo is suppressed during nursing (as it is with BCP and the removal of endo)

Community Leader
Registered: 06-01-2004
Finally here to reply to you - my response time is terrible these days - sorry :) I have been on this board since my first son was about a year old I think and he is turning 7 next month! I didn't start CL'ing until after our 2nd DS was born and was about 8 months old I think...he is 4 1/2 now....so yes, I have been hanging out here for a very long time and have seen so many people come, agonize over no AF, short LP's, child spacing etc, and then get their BFP's....have seen lots come back for more too :) It is really cool to see familiar "faces" - well names anyways lol - and I think being here so long has given me great perspective about time and how we torture ourselves with worry over things that ultimately are out of our control! It is so stressful when you are in the middle of it all and I dearly remember how distraught I was when my plan was not working out. I know exactly what you mean about the stress of IVF and yet I think that I would do it again with no hesitations if my DH was on board for it again. I probably didn't realize how stressful it really was until I can look back on it now and remember what an intense process it all is. We did clomid by itself, and then clomid with IUI's, and then injectables with IUI's before turning on the big guns and doing IVF - but I am fairly certain I had weaned DS by then as I didn't want them to turn me down from any of the above if I was still nursing. He was over 2 1/2 by then and mostly weaned (although at 4 he is STILL such a booby kid - likes to hug my and snuggle my chest and talk to my "baboos" lol. ).
I really and truly hope that you get that natural BFP in good time this go around...it would be such a wonderful surprise. Keep doing what you are doing and nursing until you are both ready to stop - and we will cross all crossables that you don't need any extra help this time. I am truly glad that despite my desire to get pregnant again with our 3rd that I didn't cut my sweet baby nursing time with DS#2.
Okay, will stop rambling now and go to bed :) Take care and thank you for your sweet compliments. I feel a real bond with you over our common experiences!
Jasmine
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Registered: 06-16-2008

Thank Jas,

I know how you feel about feeling very much connnected with those you have gone through IVF (and the agonizing road leading up to it). It's an experience that can only truly be understood by having gone through it. And I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I agree that I've only really realized now that I'm out of it how stressful it was on me and my husband.