Karen Lynn and Deb

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2009
Karen Lynn and Deb
15
Sat, 08-14-2010 - 12:36pm

Hugs to you both. I was so hopeful for both of you this month. I really thought I'd log in today and see a bfp announcement from one or both of you.


So, I will wish you both

 

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2000
Sat, 08-14-2010 - 1:55pm

Sunday,

You're the sweetest! I think that we should start planning now that our children go to the same college or something, so that they can fall in love and we can be connected in real life, and I would have NO problem with you being Anthony's MIL :) I'm a little cooky, but good-hearted, so I'd be a nice MIL to Katarina, I promise!!!

As for AF, I'm sort of taking the same approach you are: I need to give my body a chance to accept these new changes. I added A LOT of supplements this month, started exercising more, cut out MOST (but not all--- I'm not a miracle worker hehe) dairy and wheat and citrus fruits, lots of pineapple post-O, and progesterone post O (probably won't do it again as it didn't seem to raise temps or do anything else significant) AND Anthony didn't nurse 10 out of the 30 days this cycle!

The new routine either lengthened my LP or delayed O a couple days and cut my LP by a day--- not sure which since I didn't do OPKs this cycle... either way--- SOMETHING different is happening. I'm trying to embrace it rather than analyze and go crazy about it---- can't change it now anyway, right!? and the plus side is that I had NO PMS, which is wonderful and I've always had this strange "pressure" when I get AF-- I've always described it as feeling as though my insides were falling out, and the INFERTILITY CURE actually talked about it--- this is the FIRST cycle EVER (even PRE-PREGNANCY) that I haven't had that awful sensation :) So good things are happening, I just need to focus on that!!!

DH asked me about a week ago when it was time to try to make a baby; I told him he was a week late. He asked why I didn't tell him and I said b/c I don't want him to feel like I only want to be intimate to achieve another child. He said thanks but that he WANTS to make another baby, so he would prefer that I DO tell him---- that takes a HUGE weight off of my shoulders and conscience :) I also told him that I was really struggling these last couple months b/c 7/15 is when I got the BFP last year and then 8/12 we lost the baby... he doesn't understand WHY it's so hard for me to let go of, neither do I honestly, but he offered to send me to therapy if I thought I needed it, so that was nice--- it's actually a relief just to tell him that I'm going through it, then I can sort of move on....

I have been lurking on the extended bf board and also the first time mom board, and soooo many women are perfectly happy to have their children further apart--- I don't know why I've been so caught up. I really just want a sibling for Anthony, and the rest doesn't matter-- age difference, when I go back to work, all the stupid stress I put on myself. So i'm going to figure it will happen when it should. I realize that I have the benefit of time on my side (I'll be 29 tomorrow) so I don't think I need to be pushing my body for something that it may not be ready for-- for whatever reason!

Wow, what a ramble!

I'm keeping my stalker radar on the top of the chart list, waiting for your BFP! With your dedication to Katarina, your efforts to support/boost your body and your unconditional support and wisdom for the ladies on this board, Karma should really kick in and pay you back SOON :)

Wishing you the best and hugs too. Thanks!

Karen Lynn

Lilypie Breastfeeding tickers
Lilypie Third Birthday tickers
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2009
Sat, 08-14-2010 - 8:16pm

Haha, SOLD on the getting our kids together idea. You know, it would solve a lot of problems. We've decided that K can't date until she's 30, but we're old, ya know? So, if it's someone we've picked, then we can probably back that up to 25, and still be around to see grandkids :)


<> I know exactly what you mean. I get that too. I was thinking when I read it that so many things I've come to think of as normal are things that maybe I've just gotten used to over the years, kwim? I've felt a lot of changes also, so that's good, and i"m just focusing on that. My telling thing will be if I don't start spotting on 9dpo, I'll be totally thrilled not being pg if I can just get a decent lp without spotting so early.


The anniversaries are hard. I get you totally on that. I make myself not look up dates, but I know that the month of July would have been the birth month, had my early loss stuck. But, I do believe that these things are for a reason, and having been there to care for so many babies with syndromes and chromosomal issues, I just feel like I need to be willing to wait for the healthy baby. If you feel you need therapy, and I have a theory that most of us do, then by all means take advantage of that offer. It can only help. The healthier you are as a person, the better of a mommy and wife you can be. Not that I don't think you're already wonderful :)


Ya know, I'd be thrilled to have a 3-4 year age difference. Just don't have the time. But, then again, Randine Lewis said I have until I'm 49. I have a feeling I shouldn't count on that. But, I grew up with 3 years between my brother and I, and 7 years between my sister and I. You don't have to have kids really close in age for them to be really close. I think that closeness between siblings has a lot more to do with how they're parented and taught to be close and respectful of each other.


Thanks for the well wishes, and I truly hope that everything comes together for you and you get your sticky healthy bfp this next cycle.


Hugs,
Sunday

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2000
Sat, 08-14-2010 - 10:58pm

Sunday,


I'm really happy to hear that you're having positive experiences with the adjustments you've made.

Lilypie Third Birthday tickers
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2010
Sat, 08-14-2010 - 11:45pm

Just out of curiousity... What did the Infertility Cure say about that insides falling out feeling? I totally starting having that feeling after my first!

Thx,
L


Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-20-2006
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 9:35am

Thanks for the thoughts! I was hoping, too. It wasn't a good month for EWCM (like none) so I was concerned about that but my temps looked really good, so I got hopeful. At this point, even if I get pregnant this next month, it will be four years between kids. Sigh.


I tried the pineapple thing, too. :) I eat lots of fruit anyway and lots of veggies this time of year. I did add Fish oil because I eat such a low fat diet I'm afraid it was working against me and I've tried more high fat dairy products (like ice cream). We'll see.


I had a bum day when my period started but I keep trying to see the sunny side of things. And if it doesn't, I'll try to be the best Mom I can to my "only."


Deb

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2010
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 11:22am

Hi Karen,

Just wanted to add that I'm sorry this wasn't your month :( I noticed you started taking progesterone this month and I hope you don't mind some unsolicited advice ;) It's my understanding that if you take the progesterone before you actually O it can prevent you from O'ing. Of course, you'd still see a temp rise because of the progesterone supplements even if you don't O. Just to make sure you don't mess with O, I think they suggest waiting until 3 dpo to start the progesterone.

Dawn


Mom to DD born April 2009 and DS born April 2011
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2009
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 2:56pm

The way the book is set up, you go through a questionaire to determine your Eastern Medicine diagnosis (nothing at all to do with a medical diagnosis). This was one of the questions in the questionaire, if I remember correctly.
What's so interesting to me is that a lot of the things that I checked, that have been true most of my adult life, or at least since this pregnancy, have changed to a more healthy pattern.
Sunday


 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2009
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 3:01pm

You know, my brother and sister are 4 years apart, and they are pretty close. I know it's not what you would have chosen, but I hope it still works out for you.


I actually cut out dairy completely about 2 1/2 months ago, after reading in "Inconceivable" and "The Infertility Cure" that it can actually hinder fertility. If I remember correctly, it makes mucus thicker, which can make it harder for the spermies to swim through. I've had more cm since stopping it, although thinner or not, who knows. I miss the ice cream :( but if it gets me pregnant....I figured I'd give it 6 months and see what happens.


Just from a stalker point of view, your charts are looking better each month, so whatever you're doing, seems to be working. You're definitely having a much more definite cover-line, with the pre-o's staying below, and the post-o's staying above. I definitely think you're going in the right direction.


Good luck this cycle. I truly hope this is it for you.


Sunday

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2009
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 3:16pm

I'm sorry about your mom. We see my mom, but I would never ever under any circumstances leave

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2000
Mon, 08-16-2010 - 10:17am

Dawn,

I don't mind unsolicited advice!! Thank you!! I actually had a minor break down after starting it because i had a major temp drop a couple of days later, indicating I probably O'd 2 days after I started it (or tried and didn't)... i've ovulated on cd 13-15 EVERY month except ONE since Sept of last year... and it would figure that the one month i try to boost myself, i have a delayed O... DS started self-weaning, so that may have contributed to hormone upset, but I will definitely wait the recommended 3 days to confirm if I use the progesterone again :)

hope you're feeling well! take care and thanks for keeping up :)

karen lynn

Lilypie Breastfeeding tickers
Lilypie Third Birthday tickers

Pages