Trying not to be bitter...

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Registered: 02-04-2008
Trying not to be bitter...
Tue, 09-13-2011 - 3:12pm

Today the mothers' group that I attend met for the first time since summer break. Turns out another lady who has a DD who was born just a couple of weeks after Lily is pregnant again--a surprise pregnancy that happened while she was still BFing. I'm happy for her, truly I am, but it also makes me a little sad. Why is it so easy for some people? I'm still sitting here feeling like a defective typewriter. :( I really wanted an 18 month or at MOST 2 year age gap. At this point I know that won't happen. Sorry ladies, just venting I guess.

 BabyFetus Ticker
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Registered: 09-03-2011
Tue, 09-13-2011 - 10:33pm
((hugs)) I have faced similar issues this summer with friends. I am very happy and excited but we are human and it is ok for us to feel the way we do *notice how I am telling my self this as well as you lol I feel horribly awkward when I get low because I already have 4 children. I wanted all my children close as well but had a ton of issues getting preg w #2 and they ended up being 4 yrs apart!

hang in there :)
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Registered: 06-01-2004
Thu, 09-15-2011 - 1:17pm
Oh hugs :( I do know that feeling well - you want to be happy for them and you are but it is also easy to just feel ticked off that it is not you too.....Hang in there and try not to stress about the age gap - my boys are 2 1/2 years apart and it was a lovely age spread.....#1 was out of diapers but still really little and not in school yet. For what its worth I think it is a better gap then the smaller one - enjoy your time with your DD and that BFP is coming soon. I wish sometimes that I had not worried so much about it all - it is hard to remember it just being me and DS#1 sometimes - it was a lovely time that I look back on with such happiness but also sadness as he is 6 years old and the baby part of him is long gone! I personally think that the 17 month age gap is sometimes not that fair on your older child - it is nice to give them the "baby" time for a bit longer - but that is just my opinion of course - we want what we want so I know how you feel.
I hope BFP finds you soon.
hUgs, Jasmine
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Registered: 09-18-2011
Sun, 09-18-2011 - 12:33am

I am 38 and just had my 3rd baby.

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Registered: 09-07-2009
Mon, 09-19-2011 - 3:37pm
I know how you feel, that was me last year. Just treat your youngest as your little baby as soon you will have another and Lily will have to all of a sudden grow up. xxx