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Registered: 12-03-2007
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 12:10pm

Logged on to facebook today only to see this update from my friend Theresa "big things happening around here Feb 12" with a pic of an ultrasound. Seriously?

You've got to be kidding me.

I know they've been trying almost as long as we have... but still. This is Theresa (and her hubby Garey) who nearly became a nun and a preist out of being unsure that they wanted children. They have changed their minds on that, obviously by their two and a half year old. But still. It is so frustrated. I could barely bring myself to "like" it on facebook. Barely. I couldn't post a sweey comment or some encouraging words or anything. I couldn't. Man it ticks me off.

How terrible is that?

I should really get

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In reply to: emedoodle
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 12:37pm

i don't know what else to say except that I completely understand and sympathize!!!

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In reply to: emedoodle
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 9:59pm

I totally understand how you're feeling! A good friend told me a few weeks ago that she was pregnant and her and her DH had only been trying for 2 months. She went for her first ultrasound and found out she's having twins! I've very happy for her, but it doesn't seem fair that it is so easy for some and not for others.


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In reply to: emedoodle
Sun, 07-25-2010 - 3:57am

All I can say is that I totally understand where you are coming from and yes, it can be very difficult to be super excited for other people when they are getting what you want - it is a struggle I have all the time - very painful and feels ugly. I think that it is okay to have these feelings as long as we are careful not to act on them in an ugly way. I figure that I can feel sorry for myself but still be happy for other peoples joy too - with the continuing hope that I will get that joy again soon too!

Go to the doctor and get started on those tests please - you will feel better when you are taking care of business instead of stalling and hoping it will just magically change. I know it makes me feel more in charge or at least maybe at peace, now that we know what we are dealing with.

Big hugs, Jasmine