Over 40, BF, & TTC?

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Registered: 06-18-2004
Over 40, BF, & TTC?
Tue, 03-06-2012 - 12:01pm

Hi. I'll be 45 in July and we are TTC for one more. This is month three of TTC and there is a good chance we

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Registered: 02-08-2009
Tue, 03-06-2012 - 7:21pm

I haven't been on here in forever....

I was 43 when I conceived DS while bfing DD. She weaned when I was 8 months pregnant, at 2 1/2. Was it harder to conceive, well, probably. But, they are 2 years and 7 months apart, which is a pretty common age gap among even the younger set who are ttc-ing while bfing.


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Registered: 06-01-2004
Sat, 03-10-2012 - 2:47am
Hello and welcome - I have been thinking about your post for a few days and meaning to get on to reply to you between chasing my 3 around! I felt quite connected to your post as I am almost 40 so have felt the pressure of time while TTC. I don't know that there is any right answer to your position but what you really need to do is decide what feels right in your heart. We conceived our first 2 children with relative ease, but #3 was very hard for us and we finally turned to IVF to achieve our dreams of just one more. I know during that time before we did IVF, I struggled about whether or not to wean and it was a tough one. I ended up nursing little man until he was about 2 1/2 or so and by then, he was ready to wean with some encouragement from me along the way. In retrospect I am glad that we nursed for as long as we did, and for as long as it was mutually happy arrangement. I think that if I had weaned before that and we still took so long to get pregnant again, I would have felt sad. Having said that, I know that at a certain age you need to have everything in your favour for TTC since time is not on our side. If there is any chance that hormonal issues are going to interfere then there is a good argument for that too. I always try and point out the opposite of your doctor's statement, and put it out there that you don't want to cut short that relationship with the child that you have for the idea of a child that you are hoping for. There is no right answer but I do wish you peace with what you choose - you can be so very proud of nursing your little one for as long as you have - so many never make it even close to 2 years so well done mama :) I especially hope that your dream comes true and #2 is on his/her way soon. Please let us know what you decide and if you need any help on the way, we are here with suggestions and a friendly ear.
Hugs, Jasmine