Grieving infertility and miscarriage in the season of Advent

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Grieving infertility and miscarriage in the season of Advent
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Fri, 12-09-2011 - 2:33pm

I wanted to pass along this article that talks about how hard it can be to deal with your own struggles while preparing for the birth of Jesus Christ:

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Registered: 08-29-2008
Great article Melissa! Thanks for sharing.

I don't particularly find Christmas time more difficult that any other time. There are moments when I see scenes with the baby Jesus and feel a bit of a stab of pain. I can understand why people could find it hard. Holiday times can be times when family members may choice to announce pregnancy and also friends sending Christmas cards may add updates of family life or a new pregnancy. That can be tough.

I find my self wondering at Christmas if I'll ever see my kids opening presents under the tree. I don't dwell on that thought loads, but it does cross my mind. We'll see our niece on Christmas day and inevitably, I wish that she had a cousin to play with!

I find some words of a Spanish Christmas song helpful. They translate as
"Jesus was born in Bethlehem but also within me"
I find that helpful, to focus on the fact that Jesus wasn't just born to Mary, on the day that I chose to accept him, he was also born into me. I have a barren womb (at the moment) but God's life lives inside me. That encourages me and gives me hope. Of course, it doesn't take away my desire for a child.........

I guess I just give myself permission to get through any holidays however I need to do that. If I need some space, I take it. In the midst of infertility, I use Christmas time as a time to reflect on the wonderful hope that I have, that helps me get through the pain.

How's everyone else finding this Christmas season?

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Actually when I was watching a nativity play today I did find myself with the thought that God got Mary pregnant as a virgin and we must have spent somewhere between 40 and 50 cycles trying to get pregnant. I found myself thinking, come on God, you did it for a virgin, this is even easier!
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