BFP after miscarriage and so anxious

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Registered: 07-29-2010
BFP after miscarriage and so anxious
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 12:25am
I am 40 1/2 yrs old, am new to this forum, and really hoping to find some support. 3 months ago I had a miscarriage which was discovered at my 8 week ultrasound when no heartbeat was seen. I had a d&c the following day. The past 3 months have been extremely difficult. Aside from the sadness and grief of losing the pregnancy, I have been beating myself up for waiting so long to TTC again. We have a DS born in Aug 08 and knew we wanted another one but I didn't want to give up the breastfeeding. (2 months after stopping bf'ing I conceived but as mentioned above it ended in miscarriage).
Now I am pregnant again; just got a BFP last week so I am very early in the pregnancy (now at 18 DPO). HCG level 12 DPO was 109, and 15 DPO was 341. Not sure if those are good numbers. Any input would be appreciated. I am on oral prometrium at night and crinone gel in am, given my previous miscarriage and at least one chemical pregnancies before conceiving DS. Progesterone level 15 DPO was 69, so I think that is ok.
The anxiety is driving me crazy! I know it is important to relax but I am having a hard time doing so! We are getting ready to go on vacation and I hope that I will be able to enjoy myself and stop obsessing about what is going to happen with this pregnancy.
It is nice to know I am not alone. (Seems like every pregnant person I see these days is in her 20's!) Any input, thoughts, or suggestions for remaining calm would be most appreciated!
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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 12:31am
And I forgot to pregnancy symptoms so far. No tender breasts or nausea. Also didn't have with my last pregnancy which resulted in miscarriage. I know it's probably early for the nausea, but I seem to remember having tender breasts from the day I got a BFP with DS. Just one more thing to worry about! Anyone else have no tender breasts with pregnancy?
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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 5:35am

Hi Betsy -

First - congrats on your BFP!! It might be a little too early for m/s symptoms - alot of women don't get any until week 6-7.

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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 8:17pm
A BFP is what we're all wanting so you are doin' good!!!!

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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 8:34pm

Betsy, your numbers are good and very promising.


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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 10:25pm
How exciting that you are preggers again!

:-) Brandy, 42 yrs. old

Mom of a fifteen n month old precious little boy, conceived in Aug. 08 on our second IUI attempt (C

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Sat, 07-31-2010 - 3:22am
Congrats! I understand your worry, been there too. I think your numbers are pretty good, and I wouldn't worry about no symptoms, it really can vary quite a lot from one pregnancy to another. Keep us posted, I hope this one is a keeper.


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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 4:45pm
Congratulations Betsy!

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Wed, 08-04-2010 - 11:31am

Hi Betsy!

Congrats on your BFP!


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Fri, 08-06-2010 - 10:55am


Welcome to the Board and congratulations on your BFP!

Having had 3 M/C and then subsequent pregnancies - I know exactly how you feel. Every twitch or pinch is magnified, and the absence of nausea or other symptoms is magnified, and it is easy to just completely be overtaken with fear and anxiety... BOTH of which are bad for you when pregnant.

Let's look at the positives: great 15DPO Progesterone level; HCG doubling time is 43.76 hours (completely on track); you are on meds to keep Progesterone levels up and no doubt taking your prenatal vitamins with the Folic Acid. And that is that for now.

So, while I know you will worry... you are doing great and should try to focus on these great numbers.

I look forward to getting your updates and to encouraging you along the way.


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Fri, 08-06-2010 - 5:03pm
Thank you to everyone for all your support... so nice to know I am not alone! It really has been helpful to get your input! I am trying to relax but always seem to find something new to worry about. I will update you all as things progress, and thanks again!