Hi ladies

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Registered: 11-17-2007
Hi ladies
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Sat, 11-17-2007 - 11:57pm
Ok here it goes: I am 42 years old..Mother of a 5 year old son and a 3 year old son...I had a stillbirth to Destynee after my second son and a miscarriage 8 months later, at 4 weeks-5 days. At one time after my miscarriage I tried desperatley with my partner to get pregant, we were like robots taking tepts, meds, timing, ovulation tests, and month after month nothing, my Dr. finally told me to accept no more babies...and I did. He didn't even feel the need to give me birth control. That relationship ended aburply, was a sressfull time. Now with alot of time in between I dated a man that I really liked but our realationship wasn't leaving me feeling to good, and I broke up with him or stopped dating him 3 weeks into our relationship, I should have started my period and was eatting dinner and this wierd wave on a combination of panic and throwing up came over me and something told me to go get a HPT I did and as of 5 pm today I have a possative result I did the math and Im 4 weeks 1 day. I could barley hold the stick I was shaking so bad...I am sinle, I have no man in my life, and really wondering why on earth after all I went threw TRYING to get pregnant agian and being told unless I had alot of cash for Invitro I needed to give up on the idea, Now out the worst situation comes a preganacy, He definatley wouldnt want it, He was happy when I told him what my Dr had said and he said He sure didnt want anymore children...My Doctor is going to fall off his chair when I tell him Im scared right now to HAVE a baby and Im SCARED Im going to have another miscarriage or still birth too doesnt really make since, I'm in limbo here...Anyone out there have any words of wisdom or comfort? I was on the TTC board for a long time
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Registered: 07-15-2005
In reply to: traci_42
Sun, 11-18-2007 - 9:11am

Hello Traci and welcome! I think we need a new board "Not TTC Over 40" :-) You are the second woman this week to tell us this happened to them. I know how torn you can feel when you find yourself pg (at any age and whether you were trying or not). Soon after I got PG with DS (after a year of IUIs) I got a promotion that I really wanted. When my boss found out I was pg, he was angry at me for taking the job (it was only a 1 year acting position, but I didn't even get to finish out the year). So I was angry that I was pg at "the worst time in my career". I realize now that there is never a "right time" to be pg and never a wrong time -- pregnancy will impact on your life in positive and negative ways no matter what.


The thing to remember Traci, is that you won't make the wrong decsion -- trust yourself to know what to do. You did want another child and maybe this is exactly what was supposed to happen. If

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Registered: 02-09-2005
In reply to: traci_42
Fri, 11-23-2007 - 9:35pm
Congratulations! Wow! I have no advice, maybe take some time, let it sink in, and you can do it! Good luck!!!
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