Not good news....

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Not good news....
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Wed, 02-09-2011 - 7:39pm

I want to thank you all for the good thoughts and prayers. Unfortunately, the ultrasound showed baby stopped growing (only measured 6 weeks, 6 days)...and no heartbeat. Although I think I knew it in my heart all along, it's still hard to accept now that it's a reality. At least I'm not in limbo anymore. Dr's hoping to try a more aggressive protocol with me (possible heparin and upping my dose of progesterone...to be started right after O)...if we decide to try again. I just don't know if I have the strength though.

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Wed, 02-09-2011 - 9:03pm

Oh Dani, I just came in to check on you, and was hoping to see good news. I am so, so, so very sorry to hear about your loss. It just plain hurts, I know, even if you did have a feeling about it. TTC over 40 can be so difficult and painful sometimes. I am sending prayers for peace to you and will be here for you. {{{{hugs}}}} xo


-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37


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Wed, 02-09-2011 - 10:08pm

I am so sorry.

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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 12:11am
Thank you both for your sweet words and prayers. Yeah, I just don't get it. These past 3 losses happened EXACTLY the same way...not very strong symptoms, too small babies...seeing the HB once or twice....then BOOM...over. For some reason, my babies just don't seem to be able to grow past the 6-7 week mark. I have 5 kids....my last one was born just 4 years ago. Am I so old that I just can't grow them right anymore? This is just so weird. I don't understand.

I'm going to ask for chromosomal testing on my LO again to rule out trisomies. My last baby was a girl and she was normal. I'm just at a loss...just dumbfounded. We may do some more testing on me too. The only thing they found last time was one mutation for factor V leiden, but this is probably something I've had all my life...and again, I've had 5 kids....so I dunno how this could be a problem. I'm very unsure about doing the heparin, unless they find a good reason for me using it.

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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 8:44am

Oh Danielle, I am just so sorry. I read your post last nite and was just so hurt for you I couldn't

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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 10:03am

Wow, so the Dr. did analysis on the last M/C and said that the baby was normal? I wonder if you could get a 2nd opinion? This is so confusing to me too. I was originally thinking that there were chromosomal issues with your last few M/Cs only because my Dr told me that 90-something percent of M/Cs that happen over the age of 40 are due to chromosomal issues due to egg quality. But if your last one was normal chromosomally, then it seems there must be something in your protocol post-BFP that your Dr should give you--are you on progesterone? Have those levels been tested?


-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37


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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 12:32pm

Yes, my last baby was sent off to a specialized lab for chromosomal analysis and she was found to be normal. I really do love my OB...but I'm thinking I might go to an R.E. for a consultation to see if there are more specialized tests they can do. And yes, my OB did put me on progesterone this pg---post + hpt. But next time he wants me on it, post O. I may have to be on heparin too....but we'll see. I don't quite understand what's going on either. My babies just don't want to grow past 6-7 weeks...this after seeing their HB's twice. It's heartbreaking to say the least. I will have this baby analyzed as well. Maybe this one DID have a chromosomal issue...guess we'll see.

I have 5 kids...my last one born just 4 years ago.....this is just so unreal.

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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 12:52pm

I am so sorry to hear about your loss.

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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 2:04pm

I would definintely go to an RE at this point, because their specialty is dealing with the types of issues you are going through. OBs are more for pregnancies to term, and also helping people end their pregnancies in a healthy way (M/Cs etc). I think at this stage there are many hormone tests that can and should be done if you want to try again.


-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37


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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 2:09pm

I am so



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Thu, 02-10-2011 - 6:30pm

I am s0 s0rry- peace and hea1ing t0 y0u

44- 5 children already- TTC number 6!

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