Not sure how I feel about this...

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Not sure how I feel about this...
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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 1:51pm

Ladies:

As you know I am in the homestretch, being presently at 35 weeks and counting. The boy is still in breech - indeed in footling breech, which is a type that generally does not correct well through manual intervention. I guess either nature takes its course or I will be having a c-section. Not what I want, but what am I going to do?

So, here is what's kinda bothering me. My OB (who I have a lot of respect for, and who I feel has *always* been looking out for me throughout 10 years of pregnancies, m/c and other girl stuff) just put this out there today at our appointment:

"Libby, if you go into labour and the baby hasn't turned... and you end up having a section you should be sure to tell them that you want your tubes tied after the delivery. Your tubes will be right there and it will be a very simple matter of getting it done."

I have to say that I was a bit stunned.

Now, to be clear - I have declared routinely that "the factory is closed" after this baby comes... and I will be 43 in less than a month... but I just feel all weird about the finality of this. Plus, I had kind of figured DH would have the snip... I mean, we women do *everything* else, it doesn't seem so much to ask for him to have this very minor procedure. DH is reluctant to commit, but would probably come around.

BUT, I guess IF I am already in surgery, the greater good would be to have my tubes tied.

I was just not ready to have this topic on the table... and now, there it is.

Libby

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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 2:44pm

Well, my personal opinion is that if you are indeed done and dh was going to have a vasectomy, seems like the least invasive is for you to have your tubes tied since there's no add'l recovery time because of it.

 


 


Susan V

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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 3:04pm

I'm with you - kinda a stunner of a conversation.

Susan L.

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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 5:41pm

Bah dum dum.... That's really something to think about. I cannot give you any advice but to say that I almost had my tubes tied after my 3rd child. I went through the counseling and everything while I was pregnant. I realize I was much younger then, but it became clear to me that I should never make any permanent decisions while pregnant. It was my mom who brought me to reason and I am so happy I listened (obviously). Of course if you are absolutely 100% positive of the decision.......

In any case, my 3rd and 4th children were breech until my 37th week and they were both around 10 pounds! I am a very small boned albeit tall woman too. My hips generally measure 35 inches when not pregnant just to give you an idea. I will say, I was sleeping with my mattress elevated by some blankets underneath. If all else fails try hanging like a bat:-) TURN BABY BOY!!!

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Thu, 10-30-2008 - 9:06am

That's good to know, Susan V. Thanks!

Libby

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Thu, 10-30-2008 - 9:13am

Susan L., I am sure that DH would do as I asked, and he confirmed it last night. If I do get to have a vaginal birth or if we don't do the TT, then I guess that will be our course.

The "what ifs" can really mess with your head. I will have 3 kids (P&PT for that) and that *is* more than enough... but it will be hard knowing that there will be no chance for another... even though I am not considering having another. It would probably bankrupt us, for a start!

You are right, I/we do need more time to consider this. So that's what we are doing.

Thanks!

Libby

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 9:15am

Thanks Brenda. I need to get 100% or just not go ahead with it.

I am doing the stuff advised to get him to turn... now if he will only cooperate!!

Libby

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Thu, 10-30-2008 - 10:08am

Update:

So, I had a call today from my OB (who, by the way has turned 65 and no longer has hospital privileges). I hadn't expected any further action from him since yesterday's meeting... BUT he decided to call the Hospital's Fetal Assessment and Treatment Centre and speak to the head doctor there. The head doctor, by the way, is the one who has done all my investigative USs and also my amnio. Good guy. I like him.

My OB has arranged for me to meet with and be assessed after my Planning Score appointment on Wednesday due to this breech matter. My OB wants an evaluation of the breech and a potential plan put in place in case of the requirement of c-section. He doesn't want me turning up at the hospital in breech with no one following me medically. (This is why I love him!)

So, leaving aside the tubes tied question, I am really glad that my OB is taking a proactive step here. I told you - I have always felt he was looking out for me, and this is another example! I am a nervous-nelly type, and I would be worried about just turning up at the hospital with no plan even if the baby is in the perfect position - let alone if he is not. Plus, I'd like to have some relationship of trust with the doctor taking care of me and the baby when "go time" arrives.

I like this plan and I really appreciate my doc arranging it for me!

Libby

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Thu, 10-30-2008 - 10:13am
That is great Libby! I'm also a planner and completely know how good it feels when you're not anonymous in a hospital, subject to whomever is on duty.
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Registered: 01-27-2008
Sun, 11-02-2008 - 4:09pm

HI Libby


35 weeks already, I am sooooo jealous. My Ob started talking tubes tied before I even stated that this was my last.

 

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Registered: 07-15-2005
Mon, 11-03-2008 - 11:23am
You look gorgeous and healthy Dawnn. And you are almost there. How exciting and thanks for KUP.

Krista

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