3rd IUI cycle a bust... ready to quit

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3rd IUI cycle a bust... ready to quit
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Fri, 02-25-2005 - 12:37pm
Although we have had everything go wrong with pregnancies that can possible go wrong, we have also NEVER had a problem getting pregnant, I've been pregnant 5 times since May 2002. I'm afraid my biological clock has caught up with me and it's just not meant to be. Anyone else feel this way? At 42 with one miracle child 2yrs old - I think I'm ready to throw in the towel on TTC #2.
Michele
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Fri, 02-25-2005 - 4:12pm

Hi Michele,

I'm sorry to hear your cycle didn't work out. But I want to encourage you not to give up - if it's best for you. I went through many IUI cycles - I had to to get covered for IVF. Chances for IVF are exponentially better than for IUIs. One is basically a turkey baster - sorry but that's how I see it - and the other the follicle is actually fertilized with sperm before you get it back. It's a tough choice - especially since you already have one miracle daughter. You didn't mention if you responded to meds ie do you get a good number of follicles.

With IVF the RE (at least mine) did much more testing, monitoring that they did for IUI. On the other hand, I hear you - getting pregnant isn't the difficult part - keeping the little one going is.

Good luck - please don't be too disheartened - this is a tough road.

Barbara

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Sun, 02-27-2005 - 12:53am

Michele,
I am so sorry your IUI didn't work! My heart goes out to you. It's so difficult waiting and waiting to find out if it worked, only to get bad news. I do understand completely how you feel. I have a 17 month old boy, got pg at 39 without drugs, after only 6 months of trying (really, the first month I had a good OPK, I got pg!). So -- sometimes I think, if it was so easy before, and it's so difficult now, maybe it's just never going to happen. And it's hard, because I read about the mind-body connection and how you're supposed to have a positive attitude and be stress-free, so when I have negative thoughts about whether or not the fertility treatments will work, I feel guilty and scared that they will decrease my chances because I need to keep a positive attitude. There's so many emotions that go with this territory. But sometimes I do think, at what point should I just give up? At what point should I just be happy and grateful that I have one healthy child? I think that point is going to come soon. I'm 42 now, so I figure if it doesn't happen this year, it won't happen at all. And I've already had 3 IUI's, so I don't know if I will do more than one more. I was set to do one this cycle, with injectible meds, but cancelled it yesterday because my dh and I are too stressed out (with non-fertility issues), and we are hoping by next month our stress levels will be down.
One thing I do think, though, is rather than give up entirely, I am trying to increase my chances of conceiving naturally, so if the next IUI doesn't work, I will try on my own for the rest of the year. I've been following some of the advice from "The Infertility Cure" and "Inconceivable" books. I keep reading about women who went through all kinds of infertility treatments, only to finally conceive on their own.

Anyway, I don't know if this helps or not. Maybe you should just take a rest cycle and give yourself time to think about it. Either way, good luck with your decision, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Dorothy

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Mon, 02-28-2005 - 10:58am

Dorothy and Barbara,
Thanks for your words of encouragement. We met with my RE this a.m. and we decided I am going to take this month off (I'm on cd 4 today) and we will do one more round of injectibles and IUI. He said he is also going to give me some sort of med that will delay ovulation thus allowing more time for more follicles to develop. He basically said that at my age it just isn't as easy as it was even just 2 years ago at 40. So, May 8th is my 43rd birthday and if the last round doesn't work we will just do things naturally and wait and see.

So, I feel ALOT better now. I am going to try the positive thinking thing - although I am usually VERY optimistic throughout - I think I got a little down last cycle when my progesterone was only 12.2 on 7dpiui - I kind of knew the cycle was a loss at that point.

I think I know way too much about this whole infertility thing... sometimes too much knowledge is not such a good thing:)

In the meantime, I have my little man, Ashton (27 mos) to keep me VERY busy!

Thanks again for your support. Good luck to both of you! Keep me posted on your progess.
Michele

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Tue, 03-01-2005 - 12:58am

Michele,
I am so glad you are feeling better. I hope my post was encouraging, and not a downer. When I just read what I had posted, it was not entirely the message I had meant to convey!! I definitely DO think we can get pregnant at our age, and like your RE said, it just will take longer. But I am so glad you are not giving up, I so believe that persistence and believing it will happen are the keys to success - it just doesn't happen as fast as it would have 10 years ago!! But if you did it once, you can do it again!

I am interested in what med you will take to delay ovulation next cycle. I am set to take Bravelle injections next month, with an HCG shot to induce ovulation, and I may want to ask my RE whether or not delaying ovulation is something we should think about. Last time I took Bravelle I only produced 2 follicles, but my RE acknowledged the dose was wrong for me, too high, as the follicles that did develop got so big so fast, one was too big at only 7 days. So, if you know the name of the med, could you let me know?

Thanks, and good luck!!
Dorothy

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Wed, 03-02-2005 - 5:48pm
Dorothy,
I haven't spoken with my REs office since our visit on Monday, but when I do, I will get the name of that drug for you. Thanks again for your words of encouragement! :)
Michele
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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 2:44pm
Dorothy,
I spoke with my REs office this afternoon and got the info on the meds. It is called an antagonist drug and the brand names are antigon and cetritide (spelling may be off). Anyway, they help delay ovulation so that follicles mature. Hope this helps. Keep me posted on your progress.
Michele
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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 12:03am
Michele,
Thank you very much for this info! I will keep you posted. Should be starting my next cycle w/meds in about 2 weeks.
Dorothy