43, and crazy?

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Registered: 12-10-2004
43, and crazy?
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Fri, 12-10-2004 - 7:51pm

Hi everyone~

I'm new to this board, and still trying to get all the glossery terms down so I can know what you guys are talking about.

Anyway, I married last Spring at 42, and am now 43 and TTC. My numbers are good, except I have low progesterone. But that's not the real problem here. One year post vasectomy reversal my husband has 100% antisperm antibodies. He's being treated with Prednisone, and I'm on my first day of Clomid -- all in prep for an IUI whenever I ovulate next week. The chances of pregnancy -- considering my age and my husband's condition -- appear to be next to nil. To bolst them I just started accupuncture, and he just started taking herbs (not because he believes in them, but because he loves me and will do anything to give me a child).

Still, I wonder, are we crazy to even try? Are we just setting ourselves up for heartbreak. It's already been so hard emotionally, and we're just at the beginning of the road.

Please Weigh In.

JWP

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Registered: 05-06-2004
In reply to: jwope
Fri, 12-10-2004 - 9:57pm

Get the book, The Infertility Cure and Inconceivable. Go to easternharmonyclinic.com and read about the infertility retreats that you can go to and meet Randine Lewis who wrote the book. You should go on the herbs along with your acupuncture. If you can spend the money and go on the retreats, that is what I would do. You can become one of her patients. She has an 85% success rate in helping mothers especially over 40. You are not crazy. Taking Clomid isn't always the answer and the herbs and acupuncture may need a few months to get you both ready. Change your diet to organic foods and in her book it tells you what else to take depending on what is going on with your body. I would take the vitamins she recommends such as coenzyme10 and others. If I were in your situation I would go on the retreat and get Randine involved. Trying to conceive myself at 40, I would never point you in the wrong direction. I have been on the herbs for 6 months and just begining the acupuncture. I have seen my period change and improve. I am hoping I might be pregnant this month and have not really been trying the last few months. I wanted to get as healthy as I could first.

Hope this helps. Stay in touch.
Mary

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Registered: 12-10-2004
In reply to: jwope
Sun, 12-12-2004 - 10:49pm

Hi Mary~

I certainly hope you're pregnant this month!

I realize that nothing I do right now will affect next week's IUI. I started on acupuncture, and my husband started on herbs, on the (big?) chance it doesn't work. I need to feel prepared and not like I'm starting at zero if things don't happen as we both wish.

I've been drawn to the infertility cure, and will buy it. Unlikley I'll be able to go on any retreats, though. My husband has two kids from his first marriage, and we travel two hours every other week to see them.

All that said, I am VERY dissatisfied with my TCM specialist, supposedly one of the best, but a man who has no bedside manner and, if pressed, I would define as even cruel. He charged us $375 EACH for an initial consultation that took no longer than five minutes, and in which he cajoled us for having questions. Thank God it was covered by insurance!I don't know any more now than when I met with him, and neither does my husband. Still, I will continue with the accupuncture, and he with the herbs. I can be in the most amazing reproductive health, but it won't make a difference because of his antibodies. We pray the prednizone he's on, mixed with the herbs, will make an impact in coming months, and maybe even next week for the IUI, although it's a longshot.