44 ,BFP, and DH a downer

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Registered: 06-17-2003
44 ,BFP, and DH a downer
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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 3:51am
Well, it has finally happened. My period is now 2 weeks late. I convinced myself it was probably perimenopause. So many symptoms are the same-- missed periods, sore breasts, and mood swings. But yesterday, I couldn't stand it anymore, so I tested. There was an immediate 2 lines. My husband is in shock and not happy, but I hope he will come around. We have 3 children between 4 and 11, and he says there's not enough money, not enough room, he's worried about my health (my last pregnancy ended in a C-section and the Dr. lacerated my cervix and I hemorraged--I needed several units of blood) and he's worried about a baby with problems. He also doesn't like the weight gain, as I never totally lost all of my previous pregnancy pounds. He's just so da!# practical and he's raining on my parade. I just told him it's a miracle I've even conceived at my age, even if I miscarry. He took to his bed yesterday, and made jokes about putting up a baby border in our storage building. He'll just have to get used to the idea. My mother offered last night to help us buy a larger house, so that made him feel a little better. I have been off of BCP for almost 2 years now, and this is the first conception. The first hurdle is miscarriage, which I read is 53% at my age. I've had 3 before, so I'm very aware of that possibility. Thank all of you for a supportive place to come. I will keep you posted.

Julie

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Registered: 11-06-2003
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 1:36pm
Dear Julie,

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What absolutely wonderful and exciting news!! There is nothing like seeing those two pink lines and knowing exactly what they mean! I wish you a very healthy and happy 9 months.

As far as your husband goes, try and cut him some slack. It is a bit daunting to think about having another mouth to feed, house, clothe, etc.. particularly when you are the "provider", not to mention the anxiety over starting "all over again", but I am sure he will come around-at least he still has a sense of humor! But you are right, don't let him rain on your parade-you are PREGNANT!!

Karen (40)

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Registered: 06-17-2003
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 2:17pm
Thank you, Karen, for the well wishes. I called my OB's nurse this am for a prenatal vitamin prescription to be called in to my pharmacy, and I asked when should I schedule my I schedule my first prenatal visit given I'm an "elderly primagravida." She called back and said the Dr. wanted a progesterone level drawn now so off I went. He said the level should be back tomorrow and should be >10. If not, they'll phone in supplements. He said older moms sometimes have low levels. My first appointment is in 3 weeks, the first time I could get when my 4 year old is in preschool. I remember the first appointment as being rather lengthy. As I was leaving, my OB walked me out and said I could have a sonar next week if I wanted one. Of course, I jumped at the chance, so next Tuesday I'll hopefully see a heartbeat. I'm about 6 1/2 weeks now.

You are so right about DH. He just needs some time to adjust. He plans to retire in less that 8 years, he's pushing 50, and a new baby was not in his plans. He's very responsible, and I'm a SAHM, so I'm sure he feels the weight of the world on his shoulders.

Best wishes on your pregnancy. It is an exciting time. I wish baby dust to all!!!

Julie

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 3:52pm
That's great news! Ya gotta start somewhere, right? I am wondering where you got the 53% statistic? I am 46 an just had a super early m/c a couple weeks ago. It was rougher than I thought, emotionally. Anyway, I had told dh that I only had a fifty percent chance of keeping it and he went and told everyone and their brother anyway the first day!

I hope you beat the odds, but I was just wondering where I could find those numbers...

Kathy