**Dianne*** How'd it go at the RE?

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**Dianne*** How'd it go at the RE?
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Thu, 08-12-2010 - 12:00pm

Today is my first day back to work since the surgery.

About me: A pixie in the city, 41, TTC#1 since May 2010, married 18 years.


Diagnosed with/surgically removed endometrioma Aug 2010. Sept IUI #1=BFN. Nov IUI #2=BFN. Uterine polyp removed Jan. 2011. Jan 2011 IVF cancelled. No response. 2nd

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Thu, 08-12-2010 - 2:38pm

Aw Pix thanks for thinking of me!

We just got back and it was kind of unsettling. She basically just suggested IVF with ICSI and went over the other options really quickly but didn't suggest them. The thing is, I honestly do believe in my heart there are 2 things we can do on our own to experiment to help us:

DH's sperm morphology is 4% (meaning abnormal shapes) and ALL other issues are great--above average!

She agreed that if he quit drinking completely for 2 months it might bring his numbers up.

My Estradiol is 98. She thinks that the Chinese Herbs I've been taking could have plant estrogens in them and that is what is giving me the high number. (Because my AMH is a really good level--1.6!!)

I think if we both stop drinking/taking herbs, we may be able to do it on our own. I want to try that for a couple months and then if that doesn't work, consider IVF.

But honestly...I don't know if I want to go that road. I honestly don't know if I can handle the stress of it all. I just don't know.

DH was totally overwhelmed and irritable just leaving the consultation. I can't imagine how he would be if we really went through with all that stuff.

So in the end...I don't know what we are going to do yet. :( Maybe we should just have dogs.


-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37


TTC#1 since March 2010
Acupuncture, Chinese Herbs, OPKs, Charting (for now)





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-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37


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Thu, 08-12-2010 - 3:37pm

I'm sure you have a lot to think about and you and DH will have to really talk this out.

About me: A pixie in the city, 41, TTC#1 since May 2010, married 18 years.


Diagnosed with/surgically removed endometrioma Aug 2010. Sept IUI #1=BFN. Nov IUI #2=BFN. Uterine polyp removed Jan. 2011. Jan 2011 IVF cancelled. No response. 2nd

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Thu, 08-12-2010 - 3:57pm
You are brave to go for the IVF voluntarily, Pix. I am so impressed with that and really curious what your RE says too. Post back after your appt! So glad your surgery is nehind you and you are feeling better. :)

-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37


TTC#1 since March 2010
Acupuncture, Chinese Herbs, OPKs, Charting (for now)





http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/flappergirl2


-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37


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Thu, 08-12-2010 - 4:29pm

I tried getting a dog Dianne, it doesn't work.

 


 


Susan V

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Thu, 08-12-2010 - 5:33pm

Thanks Susan!!

She did discuss IUI, but she said the success rate is only 4-10% or something really low, whereas IVF with ICSI has a 20-30% success rate (I may be a little off with percentages but it is in the ballpark).

She also thought IUI wouldn't be as good for us because DH has sperm shape abnormalities, and that they have trouble penetrating the egg on their own. With ICSI, they take individual, perfect-looking sperms and inject them manually into the egg with a special needle in the petri dish before transferring them.

I don't know! I don't know! It is overwhelming. I need to process all of it.

I can't stop being mad that we can't do it on our own!!!!!!!!


-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37


TTC#1 since March 2010
Acupuncture, Chinese Herbs, OPKs, Charting (for now)





http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/flappergirl2


-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37


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Fri, 08-13-2010 - 12:59am

Well as you yourself said, you might still be able to, and she did give you some homework (quitting the herbs and alcohol), so that you could try.

I know you were just being facetious but agree with Susan, pets won't stop the urge. Literally DH tried that two years ago and got me a puppy, whom I adore...but it didn't stop my wanting a baby...just quieted it for a while I guess.

-Bridget


TTC#3 since June 2010. Me = 39 w/ PCOS; DH = 43; married 13 years.

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Fri, 08-13-2010 - 9:41am

I have two dogs that I got last year.... didn't work!

From 41 to 42 is a big change in chances for IVF. Infertility happens like a cascading waterfall, not a slow moving stream. By the time you hit 42, chances for success dip below 10%.

You can do this!

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martha

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Fri, 08-13-2010 - 10:01am

Dianne, I am so sorry this has been stressful for you. As someone who has been there, done that, I will say this -- once things sink in, you realize you can handle more than you thought. Honestly, I *never* imagined I would try IVF once, much less three times. I just kept drawing lines in the sand and jumping over them.

So my advice: try naturally for a couple more months. Hopefully you will get pregnant. If not, take a deep look inside and see if a baby is really what you want. If it is: I'd say go for it by any means necessary. (As I've said before, the IVF stuff isn't bad at all, aside from the two-week wait and, um, if it doesn't work.)

Hang in there. (((HUGS)))


Susan CB



TTC #1 at age (gulp) 42

June 2008: m/c

April 2010: IVF #1 -- chemical pregnancy

June 2010: IVF #2 -- BFN

Aug. 2010: IVF #3 -- 9 eggs retrieved on 8/10


Susan CB

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Fri, 08-13-2010 - 1:21pm
Hi Dianne. You might get DH to try some fertile aid (for men) vitamins. There are also chinese herbs out there that are supposed to help with sperm morphologu (don't know off the top of my head) but it might be a simple, non invasive and not expensive thing you can add.

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Fri, 08-13-2010 - 2:17pm

Thanks for all your replies you guys!!
I have been thinking about the 42 age issue - glad you brought that up, Martha.


I am going to take all of your advice and feedback, literally! Susan, we are gonna do the couple-month thing with our homework, Krista, DH is going to buy the fertility supps today (we were just talking about that!! :)), and of course the no alcohol and all.


I even made an appt in Oct for the Dr that is the author of Making Babies. He is here in NY.


And if all else fails, I think by October/November we will begin IVF.
I just feel like we need to do just a couple things on our own first, and see, without wasting toooo much time. Just one or 2 cycles.



Scary...Thanks you guys. xoxo I especially appreciate all your feedback about IVF. It is just so foreign to me and I reeeally like hearing your firsthand experiences!!!




-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37


TTC#1 since March 2010
Acupuncture, Chinese Herbs, OPKs, Charting (for now)






http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/flappergirl2





Edited 8/13/2010 2:20 pm ET by loves_me

-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37


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