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Thu, 08-02-2012 - 1:18pm

My friend (guy, who is same age as me), just posted his u/s on his page of his wife's new little bean....must be nice to have a pregnancy going well!  :smileysad:

After 2 losses, in a row....I am afraid to have sex, because I might get pg. again & have to face ANOTHER loss.....I don't know how to get past this fear?!

Then I saw the CUTEST baby boy today (about 11 mos. old, with cute blonde curls) and my heart just sank! Because my last pregnancy, I was pg. with my son. *sigh*  :smileyindifferent:

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Fri, 08-03-2012 - 8:36pm

kiki:

big hugs to you. i'm thinking about you and praying for you.

xoxo

~monica

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Fri, 08-03-2012 - 7:28pm

Helen, YES, I am sooooo blessed to have my daughter!!!  I love her so!!  As a matter of fact, not being successful in having another child, has made my love for my daughter so much deeper!!  And now I stress over everytime she's not in my presence & visiting her dad!  :smileyfrustrated:

Thank you gals for the love & support!!  I truly appreciate it!!  :heart:

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Fri, 08-03-2012 - 7:24pm

Bonnie, thank you for sharing your story with me!  You truly are a strong person & I admire you so....I wish I could get my courage up, like you!  :heart:

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Fri, 08-03-2012 - 4:42pm
Bonnie, you sound like a very special person. To have felt as you did and to have worked through those feelings to love those babies and not to feel sad anymore is so lovely to hear. So many people could learn from that.
I totally agree that we have to allow ourselves to be sad before we can move on.
I loved Maeve Binchy's comment (Irish novelist who has just died) that her response to not being able to have children was that she could sit around and mope or she could embrace other people's children, especially when their parents got sick of them and she chose the second option which brought her much joy.
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Fri, 08-03-2012 - 4:34pm

Oh Kiki, facebook can be great and it can be so hurtful too! I often end up feeling as though everyone else is having much more fun and making so much more progress in their lives than I am when I look on there if I'm not in the right frame of mind. 

Of course you are glad for others but it can be a reminder of what we are missing too. I am sure you will get your answers in time, as will we all. 

Can I just say how lucky I think you are to have a 13 year old daughter! How wonderful must that be. My sister has 5 boys and would love to have had a girl. I guess we want what we don;t have. 

You are in my prayers

Helen x

 

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Fri, 08-03-2012 - 10:55am

>>It's true that you could possibly have another loss if you get pregnant, but even after 2 in a row your odds are still pretty good.  If you really want a baby, the only thing you can do is keep trying.  Just have faith that what is meant to be, will be.  *hugs*<<

Thanks Melissa, yes I am happy for any friend, who is expecting, well wishes for them!  It is just hard to see other people have it so easy, meanwhile I have to experience the worst outcome!  :smileyindifferent:

I am really struggling with trying again?  My son died, due to abnormal chromosomes, so is that just bad luck? or is there something underlying, between DH & I, that is contributing to making babies with abnormal chromosomes?

On one hand, it's very easy for me to get pg., so is that a good thing? that odds are eventually, I will get a good egg? or do I nedd to go thru a few more losses to get to that good egg? do I want to continue to go thru the pain? or is having all my m/c's God's way of telling me, not to try to have a baby anymore?

I really didn't know I was going to be faced with so much heartbreak & confusion?! So, I'm perplexed!  :smileyfrustrated:

Also thnx for the hugs Michele! I have my good days, then bad days!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Thu, 08-02-2012 - 5:30pm

I'm sorry Kiki. :smileysad: Big big hugs my lady. 

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Thu, 08-02-2012 - 3:54pm

then, not sure why I did this? guess I was feeling a little nostalgic, went on my old Jan. expecting club board & saw all the baby bumps posted....I 'should be' 16 weeks along now, with my baby boy. :smileysad:

I guess I just need to torture myself today! :smileyindifferent:

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend