by comments made to me, over past few weeks!!
Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend
I think you have to be comfortable with your decision to go forward or not. Not taking into consideration anything anyone else is saying. Plenty of women m/c and many of them are NOT over 40. Some over 40's have perfectly healthy eggs as a general rule. I think those people are being pretty darn insensitive to insinuate that it is in any way, your fault for wanting to have another baby at "your age." I personally say screw them... I try to make my decisions based on my own feelings. Try to weed through the comments and determine how you feel when you take them out. It sounds like you were willing to try again before others had "feedback." Their feedback is now playing on your own fears that it may happen again, which is a strong deterrent. I think it is good that at least the wedding gives you some time to think things over for a while longer before you feel like you have truly arrived at a decision. The only person other than yourself that you should consider in whether to try again is of course DF (soon to be DH :). I don't think there is a right or wrong decision here except whatever decision you both feel is right or wrong for you both. Hugs again... I wish the decision was less painful for you. Hang in there.
okay....I am angry & I am just going to vent!!
thanks Michele....I was so much more optimistic, when we 1st decided to try, but now that I m/c'ed & I have to hear the comments, it really makes me 2nd guess everything.....maybe I am just having a bad day!
I have thought about my decision to TTC after age 40 again and again.
Thank you Mel!!
thank you Annemarie....need to hear this......I am so fed up & frustrated with people, lately! I guess, my body & hormones are making me more emotional.....I just want a fair chance at being a mommy again!
I know of sooo many women that have had kids in their 40's and healthy babies!!
Sorry I'm seeing this late and I just want to say I'm sorry people are so insensitive with the things that come out of their mouths. It isn't your fault that you lost that little one.
My Ovulation Chart <img
found this article on m/c in case anyone else wants to read it:
"Despite their prevalence, it is always devastating when a woman experiences a miscarriage. A large portion of women will experience at least one miscarriage during their reproductive years. If you have had a miscarriage, take the time to understand better why these occur and why it is not your fault. "When you conceive and a baby is created, it takes half its genes from the sperm and half from the egg that ovulated that month. At the exact time of conception, the cross-over of these genes takes place. Sometimes, for no reason other than bad luck, some information is lost and the pregnancy is destined from that point not to be. "It might be that this lost information is not needed for many weeks, and the pregnancy will continue as normal until that time. When the needed information is not there, it is then that the baby dies and you begin to miscarry.