getting spouses on board to TTC

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getting spouses on board to TTC
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Sat, 12-01-2012 - 9:57am

Is this an issue for others as well?  We M/C recently and have now been green lit.  Funny how it's not that easy as the doctors saying go for gold when you get home.  Emotions, life, etc.  

Hubby is apprehensive and I'm running out of time at 40.    Talking about it feels like I'm convincing him.  He says he's not against trying again, which I am thankful.   But....words and actions are two different things.  I think he is scared.  As am I, but I want this so bad.  I feel that I let so much time slip by already and just lost 3 months by M/C.  We have a wonderful marriage and I feel so bad about pressuring him.  

How do you deal with this...this cannot be a unique situation.  I'm interested at others thoughts and feelings of both spouses.

I have no children (hopefully yet) so this is very important to me....

Nina, mc at 8 weeks, October 29, 2012, mc at 4.5 weeks on January 12,  staying positive and third times's a charm???

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Wed, 12-12-2012 - 3:37pm
Nina, I'm glad he's coming around, best of luck!

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Mon, 12-03-2012 - 1:25pm
Nina, I also wanted to send good thoughts and LOADS of baby dust to you for this weekend!!! :) Barbara
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Mon, 12-03-2012 - 8:23am

 YAY Nina! Glad he is on board and you may have  a shot at this 2ww. Sending + thoughts and hugs.

Vickie

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Sun, 12-02-2012 - 9:49pm

That is one thing I have always tried not to do (share too much details, lol)  He knows when ovulting is since thats my way of seducing him....but in a fun way.  I dont talk about babies in bed...those are my rules.  No conception talk or anything that isnt fun.  It helps.  I think that would stress me out too!  LOL

Things have progressed to him TTC since I posted this.  so all a go!  

BTW, I think I ovulated late....like day 14 instead of day 12 that I used to be before MC.  That would make this weekend a very, very good weekend and I may just get into that 2 ww for december.  

Wishes for us all...............

Nina, mc at 8 weeks, October 29, 2012, mc at 4.5 weeks on January 12,  staying positive and third times's a charm???

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Sun, 12-02-2012 - 6:51am

 Nina, you certainly aren't alone with this. I think we all have had times that hubby just wasn't really into trying (especially after a loss). I'm sure he is worried about another loss just as you are. I hope you both can share your feelings and thoughts with each other and get together with a plan to try. I found with my hubby that he didn't want to know all the details of O and CM, etc. He didn't mind being seduced at the right time but knowing everything put too much pressure on him. I realize now that there were many cycles that I'm sure he felt used and I feel so bad about that. Keep the love alive above anything else and try to make it fun. Cuddle with him when it's not about baby making.   Sending you HUGS and + thoughts for a great cycle next time.

Vickie

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