Hey Barbara!

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Registered: 11-30-2003
Hey Barbara!
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Fri, 03-19-2004 - 4:09pm
Barbara: Sorry...I just saw today the post you shared on Tuesday about your negative blood test...so sorry.

I know what you mean about the $$$ for the treatments. Started to add up the out of pocket costs...thousands & thousands...and still empty arms. I know illogical, but I want the..."I'll give you my entire life savings and go into debt...but guarantee me a baby" plan. (Yes, when I find where it's available I'll share...)

I used to think about how we are just throwing all this money away, if we don't have a baby. I've tried to switch that around. When I'm 60, if we don't have kids, it will give me peace of mind that I tried everything that's available...no regrets or second guesses. (I'll let you know if that's how I feel when I'm 60....)

Keep optimistic about this next IVF. I'll be sending you positive thoughts, prayers and warm wishes...hope the snow didn't end up too bad in Boston. I'm in Chicago and it snowed almost every day this week...how bizarre!! Take care.

Margie

P.S. My sister & her family live in Wellesley...is that near you?

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Registered: 02-17-2004
In reply to: marmar0704
Mon, 03-22-2004 - 3:14pm
Hi Margie, Thanks very much for your kind thoughts - I too have been thinking if nothing works at least I've done everything I possibly can to have a baby - and I eagerly await news of the "plan" as you so succinctly put it. But ... I have not and will not give up just yet. I find it harder than ever to read stories about 2-3 month-old babies being shaken because the caretaker (often the unemployed father not used to crying babies!) can't handle it. Please, please let me!

Yes, Wellesley is just a short hop, skip and jump from where I live - and a great town to boot! Will have a month or so off meds and then back to the hormones. How about you - what's your next step?

Appreciate your note - I don't feel quite so isolated now that I've found this board.

Take care - Barbara

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Registered: 11-30-2003
In reply to: marmar0704
Mon, 03-22-2004 - 5:50pm
Barbara: I share your frustration when I hear about shaken babies or people who drive their children into a lake or abuse their children...makes me wonder. I'm a great auntie to my neices & nephews and while I've never been a parent, I think I'd provide a supportive home environment (more so than some of those you hear about in the news).

Last Monday, I started to investigate IVF. Went to one center and I think I want to go to at least one more, just to get a sense of what the options are. The doctor was very discouraging...nothing really I didn't know. My current RE (who does not do IVF) wants to do the gonal f shots for 6 months...I'm currently in my 4th cycle of the shots. The IVF doctor told me I was wasting my time...if they didn't work by now I should switch to IVF. Of course, at that clinic there is an 8 week wait to have the registration meeting...so I think I'm going to finish out the gonal f and then move on to the IVF.

I find these boards very comforting...any of my friends who went through fertility problems all now have 1+ children or are expecting. No one has had to go through all the injections, etc. It's nice to know I'm not the only one. Take care.

Margie

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Registered: 12-26-2003
In reply to: marmar0704
Mon, 03-22-2004 - 9:30pm
Hi Barbara,

I just wanted to say how sorry I was for your BFN. If there is anything I can do just ask.

+++++I am sending tons of prayers your way!+++++++

Lisa
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