If the definition of insanity is...

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If the definition of insanity is...
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Sat, 07-10-2010 - 8:47am

...doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results, then how crazy would I would be to try a third IVF?

I got this e-mail from my IVF coordinator yesterday:

"Just letting you know that Dr Copperman had his team meeting today and he has decided on a plan for another cycle. He was very pleased with your response last time and the plan is the same as last time, although the dose of meds may change throughout."

He was pleased? But I didn't get pregnant!

I don't know, man. This last BFN was pretty devastating.

The idea of spending another $15K is daunting, but let's face it, we've been DINKs for so long that we have a little extra dough. What are we gonna spend it on, a Winnebago?

I'd kinda geared myself up for trying naturally -- and we're still going to, at least for this cycle -- but is it worth trying something that statistically has better odds?

Welcoming any and all input.


Susan CB



TTC #1 at age (gulp) 42

June 2008: m/c

April 2010: IVF #1 -- chemical pregnancy

June 2010: IVF #2 -- BFN


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Wed, 07-14-2010 - 10:32pm
Go, Susan!!

:-) Brandy, 42 yrs. old


Mom of a fifteen n month old precious little boy, conceived in Aug. 08 on our second IUI attempt (C

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Tue, 07-13-2010 - 11:32pm
You go Susan!

 


 


Susan V

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Tue, 07-13-2010 - 12:55pm

Ruth, are we married to the same DH? Mine is also a very practical computer geek. My nickname for him is Dr. Science! It was fun to see him debating (in his gentle, geeky way) the IVF odds with our RE.

We were supposed to have a follow-up appointment on 8/5, but I was able to get an earlier one for this Thursday. I'm going to ask about Saizen, the human growth hormone that Susan L. and Jenna took in their successful IVFs. If we get a sense that we can do SOMETHING to improve our chances we might go for it again. I'm not too thrilled about the prospect, but as you said, that "had to know" thing is a powerful motivator.

Thank you so much for your support! I will let you know what happens on Thursday.


Susan CB



TTC #1 at age (gulp) 42

June 2008: m/c

April 2010: IVF #1 -- chemical pregnancy

June 2010: IVF #2 -- BFN


Susan CB

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Tue, 07-13-2010 - 12:22pm

Susan, I know this is a very difficult and confusing decision that you are trying to make.

 

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Mon, 07-12-2010 - 8:56pm

I don't know if this is inspiring or disheartening..but I found it inspiring. Hopefully you will too. My doctor's cousin did IVF 11 times before she got pregnant. She had twins. Then they did IVF one more time and it worked on the first try and she had a singleton. Now, she lives in Israel where IVF is free (can you imagine?!) and most of us couldn't afford so much IVF, but sometimes persistence is key and a happy ending just takes a little more work.


If you can swing it and your heart can take it, I would probably try again.


Hugs to you. None of this is easy, that is for sure!

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Sun, 07-11-2010 - 7:56pm
You should give it another go.
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Sun, 07-11-2010 - 12:12am
(((((Hugs))))) I don't have any wonderful words to give you, I haven't been to the point of IVF or even close. Just wanted to let you know that I DO understand the whole emotional roller coaster ride and send you some hugs. :-)

Michelle


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Sat, 07-10-2010 - 8:25pm
Oh Susan, you are not insane and it is so hard to know the answer.

~ Jodi ~


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Sat, 07-10-2010 - 4:26pm

Thank you all for your insights. I can't say enough how much this board has helped me. I only hope I offer as much support as I get.

Susan V., crazy or not, I am really glad you are still trying -- feeling very optimistic for you.

Krista, "a terrible roller coaster of hope and devastation" really sums it up. Thank you very, very much for a beautiful, thoughtful post. My RE's live birth rate for women age 41-42 who make it to embryo transfer is 21%. Sounds pretty good until you look at the flip side -- 79% do NOT end with babies. Bleah. When I think about trying again I always imagine myself in the 21% club. Hopeful, yes, but maybe not too smart.

Thank you also for suggesting I post on the IVF board. Jenna has already posted some really helpful info if we do decide to try again.

Martha, happy anniversary and congrats on the new house! And thank you for your level-headed response. I totally get what you mean -- in some ways it would be easier if the RE told me to pack it in. You ask a great question about my ultimate goal: if it's a choice between no biological child and no child at all, where do I land?

Right now I am leaning toward not doing it again. But I'm so freaking indecisive and impulsive that you could well see me post, "We're going for it!" in the next few weeks. Oy vey... In the meantime -- we're back to trying the old-fashioned way. Hey, you never know.


Susan CB



TTC #1 at age (gulp) 42

June 2008: m/c

April 2010: IVF #1 -- chemical pregnancy

June 2010: IVF #2 -- BFN


Susan CB

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Sat, 07-10-2010 - 1:19pm

The definition of insanity is :

 


 


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